1. Ran Out Of Excuses To Say No

Yes, unfortunately, the most common reasons a woman go on a blind date is because they can’t say no anymore. Her friends have probably been trying to set her up with you for a while. This is not a bad thing; if her friends have insisted it’s because they think highly of you and that goes a long way with a girl. Just be aware that she is dreading the encounter as least as much as you are and her number one fear is to be rejected by a stranger that she may have to face again in the future because you have common friends.

2. Can’t Face Another Saturday Night Alone

Saturday nights can be difficult on singles, especially if you are the only one in your circle that’s not seeing anyone. Sometimes, many women will rather chance a stranger on a Saturday night than sit alone again in front of the TV watching people fall in love. And being out with a stranger is a lot easier than being out alone. Although no none will come out right and tell you that she’s going out with you because she is bored and lonely, you can sense it.  Just don’t assume it means she’s desperate; she might just want some company for this particular night and so do you. After all, you are on a blind date as well.

3. Like Your Picture

Yes and definitely yes, if she sees your picture after all the great things her friends told her about you, if she likes what she sees, then she will agree to the date because it suddenly promising. Unfortunately this also means that her expectations are a tad higher than it would normally be. However, if she has being dating online for a while, by now she is aware that you can predict attraction based on a promising profile. Find out if she’s seen your pic and if she has, ask to see hers to level things.

4. Desperate For a Date For a Special Occasion

There are some occasions, especially family ones, where a girl will do literally anything to not show up alone. I am sure some guys have those as well. When one of these celebrations come around, she will be going on blind date because she has to find someone. And all her girlfriends will be in on the scoop. She is not looking for someone to be in a relationship with; she is looking for the guy who will silence all the gossips she knows she is the object. She is looking for the guy she can show off with the right look, manner, and status.

5. Want To Broaden The Horizon

Let’s face it; we only know so many people and sometimes we don’t have time for online dating. That’s where the friends and acquaintances come in; they can help a girl meet new people without her investing her time and energy sorting through profiles online. And because she will have the matchmaker in common with the date, there is less pressure to come up with an interesting topic for a conversation. It’s also a lot easier to make new friends that way if there is no attraction.

6. She Is Doing a Friend a Favour

It doesn’t mean she is pitying you but yes a girl will go on a blind date as a favour to a friend. Maybe your friends are tired of seeing you sit alone every night refusing to do anything since the last girl broke your heart and they have finally convince you to give it a try. to boost your energy and just get you out of the breakup zone, they will ask a girlfriend to entertain you for a night and maybe more. But don’t worry great things can still come out of it.

7. Is Serious About Being In a Relationship

Finally a girl will on blind dates because she is serious abut getting in a relationship. And the more people she meets, the more likely she will get what she wants. She might actually be the one initiating them, calling all her friends and acquaintances and asking them to set her up with every single guy they know. This is a good thing for you if you are looking because she is a girl who takes initiative. But she also won’t waste any time on you if you don’t fit the profile.

Expectations

Whether good or bad, most women do not have high expectations for a blind date.  In fact, you probably feel the same way.  Most people – male or female – going on a blind date expect things to be awkward and for the date to be anything but enjoyable.

On the one hand, this is great because you don’t really have any expectations to live up to.  The threshold is low, so if you can pull off a date that is comfortable and fun then you walk away a winner.

On the other hand, your date may be ruined before it begins due to these preconceived notions.  No matter what you do or how wonderful the date is, the woman may not be happy since she has it in her mind that blind dates are bad.

The Blind Date Curse

It is your job to overcome the expectations and make this date something wonderful.  It can be a challenge, but you can do it.  You just need to start with thinking of this as a first date, not a blind date.

Treat this like a first date.  Don’t think of her as a stranger, but as a regular date.  Having this mindset will help you to put her at ease.  It may even help her to shake the all the bad things she has in her mind about blind dates.

Overcome Awkwardness

The biggest challenge on a blind date is the awkwardness.  She will probably be nervous and look to you to put her at ease.  You do have to be careful.  She is expecting you to be friendly and to approach her with respect, so make sure that you do that.

Chances are that she expects you to be sleazy and to try to put the moves on her.  Don’t do this and don’t even elude to this.  Be friendly and honest.  Steer the conversation away from anything that could make her uncomfortable.  Don’t push conversation topics that seem to make her pull away.

Have some conversation ideas in mind before you go.  Make sure you listen to her and engage her in an active conversation.  Ask her questions and show interest in her.  A good conversation can really lighten the mood and make the date enjoyable.

Even if you are not feeling chemistry, your blind date can still be successful.  You just have to exceed her expectations.  There may be no second date, but at least she won’t have anything bad to say about the date.  Have fun on your blind date and make sure she has fun.  All that you really can expect from a blind date is that it will be a good time.  If you accomplish that then you have had a successful blind date.

When you have this minor lapse in judgment how do you recover?  How do you get out the date?  Is there anyway to bow out gracefully without hurting the other person’s feelings or upsetting the person who set you up?

Usually your best bet is to go on the date, but that doesn’t mean you have to see it through to the bloody end.  Here are some tips on how to get out of your blind date from hell:

• Have an escape plan. Know ahead of time how you will get out.  Make sure it is fast and fool proof.  One of the most commonly used escape plans is receiving an urgent call that you must get home right away.  This is usually set up with a friend beforehand who will call you and offer you the out.

• Fear hurting the other person’s feelings? Try a different approach to getting out of this date.  Instead of you leaving, make her want to leave.  Be someone that nobody would want to spend the evening with.  She will be begging to leave.

• If all else fails, just be honest. Tell her that you just didn’t feel up for the date in the first place, but that you felt bad canceling.  Suggest that you spare each other from blind date disaster and call it an early night.

If you really cannot get yourself to the date but don’t want to hurt your friend’s feelings, then call the friend and leave an apologetic message about not feeling well. The key here is to leave a message, then stay out of reach for the rest of the day. Just make sure you do that ahead of time so your blind date know the date is canceled. Your friend will have a valid excuse that will allow everyone to gracefully save face.

Here are three questions that you can ask within the first five minutes of a conversation to help set a good tone for the whole conversation.  These things will also allow you to get to know a lot about her so you will have ways to relate to her and build upon if you are interested in taking things further into a relationship.

Question #1: Ask about family.

Ask her if she has brothers or sisters.  Once she answers ask more about her family.  You are trying to find something you can relate to.  Maybe she has a brother who plays football and you play football.  You have found a connection.

Question #2: Ask about what she does for a living.

Not only will this give you insight into her life, but you will learn about her education.  You will find out if she is passionate about her career.  You will also learn something important about her – whether she is self-sufficient.

Question #3: Ask what her favorite movie is.

It may seem simple, but ask about her favorite movie.  This will speak volumes about her.  It will tell you about her personality and give you a little glimpse into who she is.  It is a simple question that actually gives you a lot of information.

These three questions are great ice breakers.  All can lead to more questions and great conversation.  Keep them in mind the next time you strike up a conversation with a woman.

Blind Date Faux Pas #1: Bad Hygiene

For most people this is something obvious.  You would be surprised at how many guys mess up here.  Sometimes it is not even that they are not clean and groomed, but that they are too groomed.  Think too much cologne.  So, brush your teeth and hair, shave the stubble, wear ironed clothes and just dab on the cologne instead of bathing in it.

Blind Date Faux Pas #2: Wandering Eyes

Checking out other women on your blind date will kill the mood in an instant.  This advice advice should be obvious, but unfortunately so many men ignore it. Keep your eyes on her and only her.

Blind Date Faux Pas #3: Being All About Me

Your favorite topic of conversation may be yourself, but trust me, she won’t feel the same.  Engage in a two way conversation.  Ask her about herself and listen to what she has to say.

Blind Date Faux Pas #4: Being a Show Off

Nobody – I repeat – NOBODY likes a show off.  Showing off is immature and it shows you have no class.  Don’t show off at all.  Period.  Don’t talk about your amazing car, flash your expensive watch or talk about how amazing you are at anything.  Keep some mystery about you and let her figure out just how great you are for herself.

Blind Date Faux Pas #5: Drinking Too Much

Do you want a date that is totally trashed?  Didn’t think so.  Being with a drunk fool is nobody’s idea of a great date.  Don’t let your nerves make you hit the bottle too hard.  Set a limit and stick to it.

These are common faux pas.  follow these blind date tips and you may just make a great first impression.