Understanding why women cheat can help you through being cheated on or to help you prevent being cheated on.

Here are the top ten reasons why women cheat:

1. Lack of sex. Again, another stereotype is that women never want sex.  This could not be further from the truth.  Women love sex, too, and if they are not getting enough of it then they may turn elsewhere to get what they need.

2. A need to feel bad. Men are not the only ones who go through a phase where they want to be out of control and wild.  Women are often thrust into the role of being the responsible one and are taught to be a good girl. For some women this becomes too much and they need to break out of their good girl role and try being bad.

3. Low self esteem. If she is feeling unloved, unwanted or otherwise bad about herself or your relationship then she may wander to find what she needs.  An affair may help her to love herself and make her feel good about herself again.

4. Payback. If you cheated on her then she may cheat on you to get your back or even the score.  Not all women think like this, but some do and will use cheating as payback.

5. Emotional needs. If your relationship has become mundane and you simply exist together then your woman may not be getting the emotional, intimate things she craves.  If you don’t give it to her then she will look for it somewhere else.

6. Feeling underappreciated. It is normal for the daily grind to get in  the way.  You may expect her to do things, like the laundry, clean the house and make dinner.  However, she doesn’t have to do those things.  Have you ever said thank you?  Do you let her know that you appreciate her?  If not, then you are setting the stage for an affair.

7. Your withdrawal. Have you been distant lately?  If so, she may see this as a sign that you want to end things.  She sees the need to move on so she starts seeing other men.  She is just pulling away before you break it off so she is less emotionally harmed.

8. Boredom. Sometimes a woman feels bored in a relationship.  She may still care for you, but if the passion is lacking then she cannot help but move on.  If she is bored and looking for spice then you have to give it to her or she could find another man who will.

9. Ending things. Maybe she wants to end things with you, but she doesn’t know how.  Instead of talking to you and having to deal with that confrontation, she decides cheating will be her way out.

10. Her heart. Sometimes a woman cheats because she finds someone who she is truly interested in.  Maybe she really has fallen in love with someone else.  She may not even be thinking straight.  Perhaps the time has just come for her to move on.

It is heartbreaking to think that she could be cheating, but you have to find out right now.  Letting it go will only hurt you more.  Catch that cheater right now and put an end to a relationship that is obviously going nowhere.

Watch Her

Your first step should just be to watch her.  See how she is acting and what has changed about her behavior.  Watch for things like private phone calls or mystery texts.  Does she seem to be busier than usually?  Is she canceling plans with you all of the sudden?  These may be signs that she is cheating.

Has She Changed Things She Says?

If she used to tell you all the time how much she loves you or used to talk about her feelings for you and now all of a sudden she doesn’t say these things, then this may be a sign.  She may no longer be having those feelings or at least having them for you.  When a girl suddenly stops saying ‘I love you’ it is almost always a good sign something is wrong.

Are Her Friends Acting Different

Most likely if she is cheating, her friends know.  If they suddenly start acting weird around you then take it as a sign.  Watching how they behave can actually be the easiest sign to spot.

No matter what signs may be coming your way, if you have a feeling something is wrong then chances are that it is.  You should talk with her about it.  Find out what is wrong and see if you can work through the problem.

Once A Cheater …

The most obvious thing that points to a cheater is that they have cheated before.  I don’t care if she says she was only 16 and she didn’t know what she wanted and that’s why she did it.  I don’t care what kind of sob story she feeds you.  Once someone has cheated they have proven they are capable of doing it.  Anyone capable of cheating probably will do it in the future.

Look at who she hangs out with, too.  Do her friends cheat?  If she hangs out with cheaters and actually values these people as friends then that just shows she probably doesn’t think cheating is all that bad.  At the very least it shows she feels cheating is justified in some cases.

Commitment Requires Character

Consider her general personality and character.  Does she have problems with willpower?  Can she not commit to anything?  A lack of willpower is dangerous.  What would she do if approached by another guy to whom she was attracted?  Would she be able to say no?  If her willpower is weak then watch out.

There is no way to know for sure if a girl will cheat.  Some people are just cheaters by nature.  For others cheating happens when they don’t feel a strong bond with their partner or when they are too afraid to just end things the right way.  The best way to avoid being cheated on is to keep the lines of communication open between you and your girlfriend, so if problems do occur then you can work them out without her resorting to cheating.