Mistake 1: Being Too Aggressive

Women can’t stand men who come on too strong. It doesn’t mean women don’t like strength, on the contrary; a man needs to be strong in many areas to succeed with women. Women don’t like a man who is too aggressive because aggression makes them feel unsafe. You can blame it on history of women being abused and then cast out society for being ruined, while the men who abused them continue their life undisrupted. In any case, a woman needs to feel safe with a man to be attracted to him.

Mistake 2: Being Overly Nice

Some men try not to be perceived as aggressive and instead end up being too nice and pushovers. On a deeper level, women don’t feel safe with men who are too nice as well. Why? Because women are programmed to look for the provider and the protector. Obviously someone who is a pushover cannot protect them, and probably won’t be able to provide for them on all the level they need. Don’t get me wrong, quality women want nice men. But overly nice men are perceived as either fake, which creates suspicion, or as weak, which is not attractive in the mating sense.

Mistake 3: Trying Too Hard to Impress Women

Some men go all out trying to impress women, thinking they can win them that way. Certainly, there are women who are attracted to men who get the artillery all out, but those women are usually not the kind great, quality men want in their lives. Trying too hard to impress anyone rarely works; you usually come across as phony and insecure. Women are not attracted to that. We all have our share of insecurity and being mature is realizing that everyone feels insecure on some level and making peace with our own battles. Then there is not need to try too hard to appear to be what we are not.

Mistake 4: Thinking You Are Not Good Enough

Again rooted in insecurity is the feeling that you are not good enough. It has been said and is still worth repeating; confidence in a man is very attractive to women. I am not saying any man is good enough for any woman, that’s certainly not the case. But if a woman is showing signs of attraction toward a guy, then she already believe he can be good enough for her. It is really annoying for her when that guy starts thinking he is out of his league. After all, she’s a grown girl and she has a pretty good idea of what’s good enough for her.

Mistake 5: Assuming They Know Everything About Women

Women can’t really stand this brand of men; the one who think they know everything about women. What these men have done in their ignorance is compartmentalize women in categories based on their limited and usually painful experiences. As soon as a woman spots this type, she usually just move on without explanation, which is unfortunate because it only reinforce their already deeply misguided opinion of women. Men, you don’t have a clue when it comes to women, so do yourself a favor, and always keep an open mind.

The Fix: What Women Find Attractive

Women are attracted to men who have their act together. These men are confident in themselves because they have created meaning and purpose in their lives. They are perceived by women as having the potential to be good protector and provider. It doesn’t mean women only want to be married, no, but even when it comes to one night stands, women still prefer men who have the potential of being good husbands. And as far as bad boys go, what women really want is the thrill and excitement they bring into the sometime monotonous life we all have.

One thing you can do is learn what annoys her and then stop doing those things.

Here are the top five things that men do that annoy women:

1. Lying. When you lie, even about small things, you are chipping away at the trust in your relationship.  Don’t lie at all, no matter how small the lie is.

2. Not being sensitive to her feelings. Women are emotional roller coasters because of hormones.  Sometimes we are not rational with our emotions, but we honestly cannot help it.  We may know we are being crazy, but we simply cannot stop acting this way.  The best thing a man can do is to be understanding.  Picking on us about it or putting us down is no good and very annoying.

3. Arrogance. An arrogant man is a huge turn off.  Women simply cannot stand to be around a man who thinks he is the best thing since sliced bread.  Confidence is one thing, but arrogance is just not cool.

4. Immaturity. Okay, sometimes it is fun to be immature, but only once in a blue moon.  Immaturity is a huge turn off.  It reminds women of a little boy who needs mothering and that is not what we want to think in a relationship.

5. Being a creeper. Basically, a creeper is someone who is always checking out women and making comments about them.  Trust me, we don’t like this.  Keep your eyes from roaming and please, keep your mouth shut.

These 5 things are so annoying to women that if you do even one of them, you can bet things won’t last long with your woman.  Stop these annoying habits and you may just find that women like you better.

I know it makes no sense.  The reason it makes no sense is that men and women think differently.  A woman’s idea of a nice guy is different than a man’s idea of a nice guy.  That is why you have been failing in your attempts to be a nice guy.

You’ll Hear It Again and Again

You will always hear women say that they want a nice guy.  They post this to their online profiles and it is the usually answer when they are asked what they look for in a man.  However, give them a nice guy and they turn him away, saying there was no attraction there.

You see them out the next night with a typical bad boy.  He smokes, drinks and every other word out of his mouth is a curse word, but she is in awe of him.  She hangs on his every words and cannot take her eyes off of him.

No wonder men are confused.  What the heck do women really want?  What is her definition of a nice guy?  This is the key to figuring out once and for what a women means when she says she wants a nice guy and the key to helping you be that nice guy.

What’s a Nice Guy?

To men a nice guy is sweet, respectful and well mannered.  He showers her with compliments and buys her gifts for no reason.  Furthermore, men believe that a nice guy is someone who is meek, submissive and let’s her make all the decisions.  A nice guy lives for her and everything in his life revolves around her.

A woman’s idea of a nice guy is none of those things.  A woman defines a nice guy as someone who makes them feel good.  A nice guy doesn’t have issues that cloud the relationship or act in negative ways.

Furthermore, a nice guy, from a woman’s point of view, is strong and masculine.  He knows who he is and is confident in himself.  A nice guy knows when to be bad and flirty.  He may have a naughty side, but he doesn’t step over boundaries by lying or cheating.

How to Be a Nice Guy

Being a nice guy is about just being you.  If you are a kind person, respectful, yet know how to have fun and can be bad sometimes then you are already a nice guy.  There is no need to play a part.  Don’t try to be what you think a nice guy is.  Instead, just treat her right.  Be yourself.  Know what is appropriate and how to handle yourself in social situations.  Don’t take advantage of her.  Don’t abuse her in any way.  Treat her like she is really important to you.  These are the things that make up the type of nice guy that a woman is looking for.

Don’t let a woman slip through your fingers simply because you can’t seem to keep her attention through riveting conversation.  Start by learning the signs that things are crumbling and then learn what to do about it and how to make her never want to take her eyes off you.

Read Her

Words are only a part of a conversation.  Her body can tell you a lot, but you have to learn to read what it is saying.  Her body language is pretty straightforward.  No matter what she is saying, her body won’t lie.

Some things you will want to watch for that signal she is starting to tear away from your conversation or lose interest include:

• long breaks in eye contact

• eyes wandering around the room or looking at others

• her body shifting to face away from you

• nervous gestures suddenly starting that were not there before

Capture Her Curiosity

When you start to see her break away or even before she has a chance to want to get out, use one f the oldest tricks in the book.  Keep her interest by making her want to know more about you and want to hear more that you have to say.

Capturing her curiosity is a sure fire way to keep her interest.  You have to give her tidbits that will leave her wanting more.  She won’t want to miss anything you say because she wants to know what she will learn.

Think of television for a minute.  Shows use cliff hangers before commercial breaks or at the end of episodes to make people want to watch the next show.  You can do this, too.  Insert a cliffhanger here and there so you can keep her interested.

Don’t Tease Her, Be Gentle

Using a cliffhanger is not about teasing her.  Don’t say something off the wall to simply shock her.  Keep it real or you could turn her off.  Say something like “I can see why men are so attracted to you.”  Just this simple statement will get her mind working.

She will try to figure out what it is that you see.  Don’t just tell her, though, or you lose the whole point of the cliff hanger.  Keep stringing her on and get her engaged in the conversation.

Keep It Up

You should not keep a cliffhanger going on forever.  Just use this trick now and then when you feel like you are losing her attention.   Once you start using this trick you will start becoming more in control of conversations and find women hanging on your every word.

Stop worrying about why she gave you her number.  Stop for a minute and think about what led up to it.

Great Conversation

Were you having a good conversation? If so, then chances are she wants to get to know you better.  She really wants you to call her.  So, give her a call and chat.  You don’t know where it could go.

Blatant Flirt

Were you really flirting hardcore before she gave you her number? If you were flirting without any real substance of a conversation then she may just be looking for a hook up.  If you are down with a booty call then give her a ring.

New Encounter

Did you just meet? In this situation she may want to get to know you more or she could be looking for a hook up.  This one is a little tricky.  You may just have to call her to find out what her motives are.

No matter what, when a woman gives you her phone number it means she is interested in you on some level.  If you are up for anything then call her.  You really have nothing to lose.  You could end up getting to know a wonderful woman.  This could even be the start of a great relationship.  Of course, if you really are not that interested in her then simply toss it and forget about it.

Women Say What They Mean

Women usually say what they mean.  I know this may seem funny, but it is true.  With guys, guys say what they think woman want to hear, but their true feelings can be found in what they do.  Women are opposite.  We may act completely opposite to what we say.  Always listen and do not base things on what we do.

One reason why women almost always say what they mean is that we think carefully before speaking.  We will go as far as to rehearse what we have to say to you before we actually say it.  We choose loaded words that have a lot of meaning behind them.  We put together sentences in an articulate manner.

The Phrase “I Love You”

Now, the confusion comes in because women tend to put different meaning behind words than men do.  The classic case in point is with the phrase “I love you”.  Women mean it when we say it and we don’t like it when it is thrown about casually.  We choose words with care and we put certain meaning in those words.  Now, the meaning we choose may be different than what a guy would and that is why there is so much confusion.

If you ever really want to know what a woman means when she says something then just ask her.  Don’t sit around and ponder what she could mean.  Don’t torture yourself by trying to figure it out.  Everyone will be better off if you just say “Hey, what did you mean when you said that?”