Does it feel like every time you see your girl she is trying to pick a fight with you?  Are you starting to dread seeing her because of it?  Well, don’t just sit there!  Do something about it.

You don’t want to keep feeling like your girlfriend is attacking you, do you?  You need to figure out why she is insistent upon picking fights with you over seemingly nonsense things.

Nonsense Fights

When your girl seems to be picking fights with you over nothing, she is sending you a huge sign.  She really could care less that you left your towel on the floor.  What she is really trying to tell you is that she is not happy with you in general.

The Unhappy Woman

When a woman is unhappy, she will pick at every little fault.  She will fight with you to make you an unhappy as she is.  What you need to do is try to find out why she is unhappy.  Get to the heart of things and turn her back into a happy woman.

Hear Her Out

The most important thing to keep in mind is that she is not interested in arguing.  She just wants you to listen to her.  So, listen.  When she complains you sit there and listen.

Tell her you like that she shares her feelings with you and that you understand why it bothers her.  Try to move this into a discussion and not an argument.  Get her to talk about what is really bothering her so you can get to the heart of the matter.

Don’t engage her in a fight because that will solve nothing.  Get her to talk and you will find all these little nonsense fights will end.  Plus, she will be much happier in the end and your relationship will be improved.

The End is Near

Sometimes fighting all the time is simply a sign that you are no longer happy in the relationship.  It may be that your relationship has run its course and it is time to put an end to things.

Think about your relationship.  Are you really happy?  Are you still in love?  Are you ready to let it go?  If you see that things are over then it is time to talk to her about it and see if you can end things on a good note instead of prolonging the agony of fighting every day.

On the Other Hand

On the other hand, sometimes constant fighting is a result of bad communication.  You are probably not resolving anything.   You just fight without solving the problem at the root of the fight.

In this situation, you know you still love her and that she loves you.  You just are having a breakdown in communication.  You need to stop, sit down, and just get to the heart of what is wrong.

Fighting all the time is not right.  It signals something is wrong.  You just need to figure out if it something that you can fix or if it is the sign that tells you things are over.

Alone Time

The first step in stopping the arguments with your girlfriend is to sit down and talk it out.  You need to find out what is behind the issues you are having.  Make sure that you do this alone.  There is no need to bring others into the situation.

Make sure that you are in control over your emotions.  Don’t raise your voice and try to listen to what she is saying even if you do not want to hear it.  Don’t interrupt her.  Listen and be calm.

Plan Ahead

Know what you want out of this conversation.  Try to reach your goal of ending the arguments.  You both need to air what you are feeling.  Get it all out there so you are both clear why you are arguing.  In many cases you will find the reason for the argument is long forgotten and you have simply fallen into a pattern of just arguing to be arguing.

Stopping ongoing arguing is a matter of being mature about  it.  You need to figure out why you are arguing and what can be done to stop it.  Make sure it doesn’t turn into a blame game.  You both need to be calm.  You have to talk it out.  If you find that you simply cannot do that, then perhaps your arguing is a sign that you are no longer compatible and are both just looking for a way out.