Mistake 1: Being Too Aggressive

Women can’t stand men who come on too strong. It doesn’t mean women don’t like strength, on the contrary; a man needs to be strong in many areas to succeed with women. Women don’t like a man who is too aggressive because aggression makes them feel unsafe. You can blame it on history of women being abused and then cast out society for being ruined, while the men who abused them continue their life undisrupted. In any case, a woman needs to feel safe with a man to be attracted to him.

Mistake 2: Being Overly Nice

Some men try not to be perceived as aggressive and instead end up being too nice and pushovers. On a deeper level, women don’t feel safe with men who are too nice as well. Why? Because women are programmed to look for the provider and the protector. Obviously someone who is a pushover cannot protect them, and probably won’t be able to provide for them on all the level they need. Don’t get me wrong, quality women want nice men. But overly nice men are perceived as either fake, which creates suspicion, or as weak, which is not attractive in the mating sense.

Mistake 3: Trying Too Hard to Impress Women

Some men go all out trying to impress women, thinking they can win them that way. Certainly, there are women who are attracted to men who get the artillery all out, but those women are usually not the kind great, quality men want in their lives. Trying too hard to impress anyone rarely works; you usually come across as phony and insecure. Women are not attracted to that. We all have our share of insecurity and being mature is realizing that everyone feels insecure on some level and making peace with our own battles. Then there is not need to try too hard to appear to be what we are not.

Mistake 4: Thinking You Are Not Good Enough

Again rooted in insecurity is the feeling that you are not good enough. It has been said and is still worth repeating; confidence in a man is very attractive to women. I am not saying any man is good enough for any woman, that’s certainly not the case. But if a woman is showing signs of attraction toward a guy, then she already believe he can be good enough for her. It is really annoying for her when that guy starts thinking he is out of his league. After all, she’s a grown girl and she has a pretty good idea of what’s good enough for her.

Mistake 5: Assuming They Know Everything About Women

Women can’t really stand this brand of men; the one who think they know everything about women. What these men have done in their ignorance is compartmentalize women in categories based on their limited and usually painful experiences. As soon as a woman spots this type, she usually just move on without explanation, which is unfortunate because it only reinforce their already deeply misguided opinion of women. Men, you don’t have a clue when it comes to women, so do yourself a favor, and always keep an open mind.

The Fix: What Women Find Attractive

Women are attracted to men who have their act together. These men are confident in themselves because they have created meaning and purpose in their lives. They are perceived by women as having the potential to be good protector and provider. It doesn’t mean women only want to be married, no, but even when it comes to one night stands, women still prefer men who have the potential of being good husbands. And as far as bad boys go, what women really want is the thrill and excitement they bring into the sometime monotonous life we all have.

Before you can look for the perfect way to celebrate, first take the time to understand what women appreciate in a gift; the effort. A woman likes to feel cherished. She likes to know that you spent time thinking about how to make her happy. And that’s how she will judge everything you do. Fortunately, even at the last minute, you can still pull off great ideas that will make her feel as if you had been planning it for years, just to wow her.

1. Full day at the spa. Don’t just give her a gift certificate, it will not do it. but instead, find out when she is free in the coming days, or go discreetly out of your way to free her day, then make reservation on that day for her. Get a blank card and write down why you think she deserve a day at the spa, praise her, finish by mentioning in some way that you made sure she was free so that she could really be pampered. Give her the card with breakfast in bed. To really impress her, send her with her best friend.

2. Send a scrapbook by mail. Not just any scrapbook. By a huge notebook and start a project. Fill in the first pages with some shared memories. Then a new date, the day you are celebrating for example, but don’t finish it. On the first page, dedicate the book to your life together and let her know you hope you will fill it together with many memories. Wrap the book and send it by mail to her, especially if you both live together.

3. Chick flick party for her an the girls. Is there a movie or TV series she always wanted to watch but hasn’t come around to it yet? Get her girlfriends on board and organize a night for her and the girls. take care of everything, it doesn’t have to be too much, just make sure she and her friends will enjoy what you provide. You don’t have to stay after the party start, but you will be the talk of the night.

4.Give her the key to you heart. Send her at the office a series of four small gifts with specific messages. For example, first send her a chocolate heart because her heart is so beautiful to you. Second send her a question mark because you hope you have her heart. Third send her a key because it belongs to her. Finally, send her a box that she can open with the key, inside you heart, because you love her.

5. Do something for her mom. Has she being talking about something she has to do for her mom but hasn’t been able to get to it? Go ahead and do. Go out of your way and make sure her mom is taken care for, but don’t tell her. She will find out soon enough and because you were humble about it, you will score higher.

Look Matters and Always Will

First let’s get this out of the way; look matters. The first thing you see about anyone is the person’s look and everyone, including women, make split seconds decision based on what they see in the first few seconds of meeting someone for the first time. Those decisions are entirely based on physical appearance.

What look matters doesn’t mean though is that you have to be George Clooney to impress a girl. Your appearance, and this includes your demeanour as well, reveals far more about you than you are aware. Women look at you and make interpretation based on their experiences, background, culture, education, and more. What this mean for you is that, you have to be aware of what you are communicating with your appearance and make sure it is exactly what you want to project.

Women Are Looking For The Man Who Will Provide And Protect

Women are genetically programmed to look for the strong male, the one who will provide and protect. But the definition of provide and protect varies for each woman. Don’t assume that a strong man needs to have tons of muscles; many women find that threatening and will never feel safe around The Miz (Mike Mizanin). And the best looking guy who can’t provide will only be good as a sex toys.

What you need is do what you have to do to build the confidence that you can provide for your woman of choice. This can go either of two ways; You just decide what you can provide and how much you can protect and find the women that are satisfied with that, or you choose the women you want and work hard to be the kind of man they will feel safe and secure with. Either, girls find a man who believe in himself irresistible.

Inside Most Women Sleeps a Little Rebel

Blame it on years of repression or anything you want, but women want to rebel a little bit. They crave an existence that is not so boring, that’s a little more challenging, and sometimes surprise them a bit. And you have the ability to provide that, if you would just get over the fact that you don’t want to scare her away.

Women don’t really like bad boys; they know they will hurt them; they know bad boys are not for keep. They would like to find a nice guy who can knock them off their feet from time to time and yet is still decent enough to bring home to dad. Work on your sense of humour, stop worrying so much about what she will think, and start leading her a little more. Be less concerned about getting her approval and start teasing her a bit more. That’s really all it takes to be found attractive and interesting by women.

1. Ran Out Of Excuses To Say No

Yes, unfortunately, the most common reasons a woman go on a blind date is because they can’t say no anymore. Her friends have probably been trying to set her up with you for a while. This is not a bad thing; if her friends have insisted it’s because they think highly of you and that goes a long way with a girl. Just be aware that she is dreading the encounter as least as much as you are and her number one fear is to be rejected by a stranger that she may have to face again in the future because you have common friends.

2. Can’t Face Another Saturday Night Alone

Saturday nights can be difficult on singles, especially if you are the only one in your circle that’s not seeing anyone. Sometimes, many women will rather chance a stranger on a Saturday night than sit alone again in front of the TV watching people fall in love. And being out with a stranger is a lot easier than being out alone. Although no none will come out right and tell you that she’s going out with you because she is bored and lonely, you can sense it.  Just don’t assume it means she’s desperate; she might just want some company for this particular night and so do you. After all, you are on a blind date as well.

3. Like Your Picture

Yes and definitely yes, if she sees your picture after all the great things her friends told her about you, if she likes what she sees, then she will agree to the date because it suddenly promising. Unfortunately this also means that her expectations are a tad higher than it would normally be. However, if she has being dating online for a while, by now she is aware that you can predict attraction based on a promising profile. Find out if she’s seen your pic and if she has, ask to see hers to level things.

4. Desperate For a Date For a Special Occasion

There are some occasions, especially family ones, where a girl will do literally anything to not show up alone. I am sure some guys have those as well. When one of these celebrations come around, she will be going on blind date because she has to find someone. And all her girlfriends will be in on the scoop. She is not looking for someone to be in a relationship with; she is looking for the guy who will silence all the gossips she knows she is the object. She is looking for the guy she can show off with the right look, manner, and status.

5. Want To Broaden The Horizon

Let’s face it; we only know so many people and sometimes we don’t have time for online dating. That’s where the friends and acquaintances come in; they can help a girl meet new people without her investing her time and energy sorting through profiles online. And because she will have the matchmaker in common with the date, there is less pressure to come up with an interesting topic for a conversation. It’s also a lot easier to make new friends that way if there is no attraction.

6. She Is Doing a Friend a Favour

It doesn’t mean she is pitying you but yes a girl will go on a blind date as a favour to a friend. Maybe your friends are tired of seeing you sit alone every night refusing to do anything since the last girl broke your heart and they have finally convince you to give it a try. to boost your energy and just get you out of the breakup zone, they will ask a girlfriend to entertain you for a night and maybe more. But don’t worry great things can still come out of it.

7. Is Serious About Being In a Relationship

Finally a girl will on blind dates because she is serious abut getting in a relationship. And the more people she meets, the more likely she will get what she wants. She might actually be the one initiating them, calling all her friends and acquaintances and asking them to set her up with every single guy they know. This is a good thing for you if you are looking because she is a girl who takes initiative. But she also won’t waste any time on you if you don’t fit the profile.

Watch her behavior.

If a girl likes you as more than a friend, then she will start to behave differently.  She will try to make eye contact more often and she will be looking at you more than usual.  She will also start to touch you more and react differently to touches from you.  She will want any physical contact to linger.  She may even start to act distant.  She may pull away.  This can happen if she thinks you do not like her beyond just a friend.

Watch for obvious body language signs.

Her body language will change.  She will start flirting with you.  She may seem nervous around you.  She will lean towards you when you are sitting near each other.   She may shows signs of being uncomfortable.  Basically, her body language is not going to be as relaxed as it used to be if she likes you as more than a friend.

See how she reacts to competition.

When you talk to her about other girls or you are around other girls does she act jealous?  If you mention another girl does she tend to shut down and not be so talkative?  These are good signs that she is jealous.  As a friend she would not be jealous, but if she likes you as more than a friend then that is why she is jealous.  Be careful here, though.  If you like her then do not make her think that you like someone else.

Ask her.

Sometimes all you can do is ask.  If she is having these feelings then she probably wants to let you know.  Ask her in a manner that is not confrontational.  You do not want her to be afraid to tell you the truth.  You also do not want her to be afraid that she will lose you as a friend.  If you like her then tell her that because it will make it much easier for her to tell the truth.

Tips:

• If you are going to ask her if she likes you then you need to make sure you really want to know the answer.  She could say yes or no.  You may want her to say yes and she says no or visa versa.  No matter what things in your relationship will probably change.

• Remember that she knows you pretty well since you have already been friends.  She will know if you are not being honest or if you are not comfortable with her feelings.

• Getting into a relationship with a friend is often seen as something that is to be avoided.  However, in reality, building up a good friendship first makes a great foundation for an amazing relationship.

One thing you can do is learn what annoys her and then stop doing those things.

Here are the top five things that men do that annoy women:

1. Lying. When you lie, even about small things, you are chipping away at the trust in your relationship.  Don’t lie at all, no matter how small the lie is.

2. Not being sensitive to her feelings. Women are emotional roller coasters because of hormones.  Sometimes we are not rational with our emotions, but we honestly cannot help it.  We may know we are being crazy, but we simply cannot stop acting this way.  The best thing a man can do is to be understanding.  Picking on us about it or putting us down is no good and very annoying.

3. Arrogance. An arrogant man is a huge turn off.  Women simply cannot stand to be around a man who thinks he is the best thing since sliced bread.  Confidence is one thing, but arrogance is just not cool.

4. Immaturity. Okay, sometimes it is fun to be immature, but only once in a blue moon.  Immaturity is a huge turn off.  It reminds women of a little boy who needs mothering and that is not what we want to think in a relationship.

5. Being a creeper. Basically, a creeper is someone who is always checking out women and making comments about them.  Trust me, we don’t like this.  Keep your eyes from roaming and please, keep your mouth shut.

These 5 things are so annoying to women that if you do even one of them, you can bet things won’t last long with your woman.  Stop these annoying habits and you may just find that women like you better.

I know it makes no sense.  The reason it makes no sense is that men and women think differently.  A woman’s idea of a nice guy is different than a man’s idea of a nice guy.  That is why you have been failing in your attempts to be a nice guy.

You’ll Hear It Again and Again

You will always hear women say that they want a nice guy.  They post this to their online profiles and it is the usually answer when they are asked what they look for in a man.  However, give them a nice guy and they turn him away, saying there was no attraction there.

You see them out the next night with a typical bad boy.  He smokes, drinks and every other word out of his mouth is a curse word, but she is in awe of him.  She hangs on his every words and cannot take her eyes off of him.

No wonder men are confused.  What the heck do women really want?  What is her definition of a nice guy?  This is the key to figuring out once and for what a women means when she says she wants a nice guy and the key to helping you be that nice guy.

What’s a Nice Guy?

To men a nice guy is sweet, respectful and well mannered.  He showers her with compliments and buys her gifts for no reason.  Furthermore, men believe that a nice guy is someone who is meek, submissive and let’s her make all the decisions.  A nice guy lives for her and everything in his life revolves around her.

A woman’s idea of a nice guy is none of those things.  A woman defines a nice guy as someone who makes them feel good.  A nice guy doesn’t have issues that cloud the relationship or act in negative ways.

Furthermore, a nice guy, from a woman’s point of view, is strong and masculine.  He knows who he is and is confident in himself.  A nice guy knows when to be bad and flirty.  He may have a naughty side, but he doesn’t step over boundaries by lying or cheating.

How to Be a Nice Guy

Being a nice guy is about just being you.  If you are a kind person, respectful, yet know how to have fun and can be bad sometimes then you are already a nice guy.  There is no need to play a part.  Don’t try to be what you think a nice guy is.  Instead, just treat her right.  Be yourself.  Know what is appropriate and how to handle yourself in social situations.  Don’t take advantage of her.  Don’t abuse her in any way.  Treat her like she is really important to you.  These are the things that make up the type of nice guy that a woman is looking for.

Here are tips to help keep your relationship moving smoothly:

1. Avoid showing affection. It is fine to have casual contact, but no kissing or major displays of affection.  That is simply not appropriate and could put you both in hot water with the boss.

2. Don’t talk about your relationship with co-workers. You know gossip gets around.  You don’t want to hurt each other by venting about your latest fight to co-workers who then spread it around work.

3. Don’t talk about others who are dating. If you start spreading gossip about others then they will do the same to you.  This is just setting things up for disaster.

4. Feel free to socialize in appropriate ways. You can attend functions together, just stay professional.

5. Set boundaries. You should know what goes at work and what does not.

6. Don’t use company email to send personal messages. You should stick to text messages on your private phone or just wait until you get home.

Recognize what went wrong.

The first step is to figure out what went wrong.  Way was the date so bad?  Was it a wrong restaurant choice?  Did something awkward happen?  Learn from your mistakes.  Make sure that you figure out why the date was bad because this will lead you to the next step in the process of getting that second date.

Talk to her.

You will never get that second date if you don’t reach out to her.  You need to see if she can get past the disaster.  Talk to her about what happened and explain how you can be sure to avoid it again.  If you were at fault then accept the blame and explain why you acted the way you did.  Ask her to forgive you.  If she was the problem, then don’t blame her.  Simply find out if she is interested in any further with you.

Ask her out.

If she is still interested then ask her out.  All she can is yes or no.  If you have done a good job off laughing off the first date disaster then you should have no trouble getting her to say yes.

Plan an amazing date.

You are getting a second chance so don’t blow it.  Make sure the second date is fool proof.  Choose what you do carefully.  Make sure that you are prepared for the date and that you are ready for this date.  Plan something simple, though.  Do not get too crazy.  Simple is best in order to minimize the chance of something bad happening again.  Try to do something that will put her at ease and that will allow you to really focus on each other so you can get to know her and move past that bad first date.

A Few Tips:

• Realize that nobody is perfect.  If you were to blame for the bad date then accept that and move on.  Everyone makes mistakes and has stupid moments.  It does not have to define who you are.  First dates are stressful and awkward, most are not perfect.  Don’t let this get you down.

• Be confident.  When you talk to her again be confident.  Let her know that date was not something that happens often.  Let her know you are interested in her and that you would love the opportunity to show hr what a great date really is.

• If she doesn’t agree to a second date then let it go.  Don’t beat yourself up about it.  Simply say okay and move on.  Take the lesson you learned from this bad date and be sure to never repeat the mistakes you made.  At least you will walk away having learned something.

Don’t be too hard on yourself.

Everyone forgets things.  You probably have a million things on your mind and are responsible for remembering a lot of important dates.  If she hasn’t dropped hints or even mentioned her birthday lately then you simply forgot and it is not the end of the world.

Keep your mouth shut.

Don’t go around freaking out and telling everyone you forget.  Anyone who knows you forgot should be asked nicely to not say anything.  Your girlfriend will be hurt if she hears that you forgot, so it is best to try not to make it front page news.

Get a gift.

You may need to be a little creative about this.  If there is something that she really wants then go ahead and order it online.  Then get her a gift you can give her right now and tell you that the other gift in on its way and has just not arrived yet.

Set up an intimate date.

There is no time for a party, so make it about the two of you.  Set up a romantic date and tell her that you wanted to spend time alone with her on her special day.
Make her feel special.

The most important thing is that you should make her feel special.  She never has to know that you threw her birthday surprise together in a matter of hours.  At the end of the day if she is happy then you have truly saved the day.

A Few Tips:

• Don’t tell her you forgot if you have not been caught.  This may seem deceitful, but you really will be saving her feelings.  She will be much better off if she doesn’t know that you forgot.  Plus, it will help you to avoid the emotional upheaval that will come if she knows you forgot her birthday.

• Keep notes for the future.  If you have a habit of forgetting then write down a reminder about her birthday so that you don’t forget again.

• If you forget and days go by then you will have to admit that you forgot and put together something special to make it up to her.  There is no guarantee that she will forgive you, but if you are really honest about it and you show total remorse for forgetting then she should forgive you.

• If you don’t have the money to put together a last minute birthday celebration then don’t worry.  Think with your heart and go simple.  Your girlfriend will be just as happy with a candlelit picnic on the floor as she would with a dinner at a five star restaurant.