Watch her behavior.

If a girl likes you as more than a friend, then she will start to behave differently.  She will try to make eye contact more often and she will be looking at you more than usual.  She will also start to touch you more and react differently to touches from you.  She will want any physical contact to linger.  She may even start to act distant.  She may pull away.  This can happen if she thinks you do not like her beyond just a friend.

Watch for obvious body language signs.

Her body language will change.  She will start flirting with you.  She may seem nervous around you.  She will lean towards you when you are sitting near each other.   She may shows signs of being uncomfortable.  Basically, her body language is not going to be as relaxed as it used to be if she likes you as more than a friend.

See how she reacts to competition.

When you talk to her about other girls or you are around other girls does she act jealous?  If you mention another girl does she tend to shut down and not be so talkative?  These are good signs that she is jealous.  As a friend she would not be jealous, but if she likes you as more than a friend then that is why she is jealous.  Be careful here, though.  If you like her then do not make her think that you like someone else.

Ask her.

Sometimes all you can do is ask.  If she is having these feelings then she probably wants to let you know.  Ask her in a manner that is not confrontational.  You do not want her to be afraid to tell you the truth.  You also do not want her to be afraid that she will lose you as a friend.  If you like her then tell her that because it will make it much easier for her to tell the truth.

Tips:

• If you are going to ask her if she likes you then you need to make sure you really want to know the answer.  She could say yes or no.  You may want her to say yes and she says no or visa versa.  No matter what things in your relationship will probably change.

• Remember that she knows you pretty well since you have already been friends.  She will know if you are not being honest or if you are not comfortable with her feelings.

• Getting into a relationship with a friend is often seen as something that is to be avoided.  However, in reality, building up a good friendship first makes a great foundation for an amazing relationship.

The Friend Zone Trap

Falling into the “Friend Zone” happens slowly.  You start out by getting to know each other.  There may be attraction.  You start to want to hang out more and you start to feel close to her.  This is where things go wrong.

At this point you can go to the “Friend Zone” or you can get into boyfriend territory.  When you go the friend route it happens because you start acting like a girlfriend.  You start listening to her talk about other guys and you start becoming her advisor on all of life’s ups and downs.  She starts to think of you as one of her girlfriends.

Avoiding the Zone

To avoid falling in the “Friend Zone” you have to not be the go to guy.  Don’t talk with her about other guys.  Don’t encourage her to talk to you about her worries and fears about relationships.  Instead play it cool.  Be the guy that she likes to hang out with, but that draws the line at talking relationships unless it is your relationship with her.

By setting up that one boundary you can stay out of the “Friend Zone”.  You can avoid the heartache that comes with knowing this girl you care about so much will never see you as more than a friend.  It is the chance to actually be considered a boyfriend and finally let you get the girl you want.

The Best Relationships Start As Friendships

You could just jump into dating every girl you meet, but I wouldn’t advise it.  You never know what you may get.  Plus, it is very true that all the best relationships are friendships first.  You need to stick with what you are doing.

To make it work as a relationship and not just a friendship, though, you have to show her from the start that you are interested in her as more than friends.  This doesn’t mean sleeping with her – I know some of you think that it does, so I had to say it.

She’s Not One Of The Guys

Just don’t treat her like one of the guys.  Don’t be too casual around her.  Treat her like a potential date.  Be kind and courteous to her.  You can build up your friendship, but if she ever gets the feeling that she is just a friend then she will push you into that friend category forever.  It is hard for a girl to see a guy as anything more once she classifies him as just a friend.

You need to just plant the seeds that possibly you may want something more.  When you get the response that shows she likes you in that way too, then it is time to make your move.  Just ask her out.  Don’t beat around the bush about it and never try to be cute or sly about it.  Be direct and just ask her.

Be ready for rejection and be ready to hear that she feels you are just a friend.  This happens sometimes, but what you should think about is she just might say yes.  You will never know if you do not try.  I hate being cliché, but in this case it is the truth.