Listen more.

Don’t just sit there and listen as she talks.  Really listing to her.  Show her by making eye contact and focusing on what she is saying.  Ask questions or make comments.  Interact with her during a conversation.  Let her know what she says is important to you.

Stop being a fool.

Stop acting like you cannot be emotional or romantic because it will damage your image.  Show her you love her by acting like you love her.  Acting all hard and tough pushes her away and makes you seem distant.  Sometimes it is okay to be cuddly and sweet.

Find out why she feels this way.

Ask her why she doesn’t believe that you love her.  Avoid the urge to get defensive.  You need to make sure that you are open to her feelings.  Let her speak her mind and make sure that you address them in a manner that makes her feel secure at the end.

Explain why you love her.

If you really do love her as much as you say you do then you should be able to explain why you love her.  Tell her everything that makes you love her.  Write it down if you have trouble putting things into words.  You can also play her a song that captures how you feel.  Songwriters have a way of putting emotions into words that the average guy just cannot do.

Show her you love her everyday.

Don’t take love for granted.  Just because you told her that you love her doesn’t mean the end.  She knows, but she needs reminders.  Keep doing loving things.  Keep showing her in little ways how much you love her.  Keep showing your love and you will keep the love alive.

A Few Tips:

• Don’t break down.  If you get all upset then it will not help you at all.  Keep your cool, but be willing to be vulnerable.

• Don’t make promises that you cannot keep. If you promise her the world then give it to her.  Broken promises are proof that your love doesn’t run as deep as you say it does.  A broken promise to a woman shows her that you don’t really care about her feelings and that she is not important enough to you that keeping your promise is a priority.

• It may take time, so be patient.  If your actions in the past have been contradictory to what you are saying now then she will need time.  You will have to prove yourself to her and prove that you are truly in love for real.

I am here to offer some friendly, female, advice to help you learn what you may be doing wrong.  I want to help you see what behaviors are chasing those women away, so you can stop them and finally hang onto a woman, even turn her on so much that she thinks of you every night before she goes to sleep and every morning when she wakes up.

Attract, Don’t Annoy

The key to keeping a woman is to learn to attract her and not annoy her.  This starts with learning some misconceptions about women and what they want.

Many men think that women want a clingy guy.  They want someone to dote on them and be ever present in their life.  While there may be some truth to this, there is such a thing as too much devotion.  Some things that could annoy her more than attract her include:

• Calling too much

• Spilling your feelings too early

• Letting her call all the shots

• Constantly asking her how she feels

Calling Too Much

When you are constantly calling, emailing to texting her, you will eventually drive her crazy.  Remember that you are not the only thing going on in her life.  She doesn’t have time to always be talking to you.

Not only does too much contact annoy her, but it can also send her the message that you are just too needy.  She may start to think that you need this constant contact and that may make her feel smothered.

Back off and give her some room.  Let her contact you from time to time.  Save up everything you have to say so when you do talk, the conversation has meaning and purpose.

Spilling Your Feelings Too Early

Women are often guilty of this, but some guys are too.  When you start saying you love her after two dates it send up a red flag.  Simply put you will scare her to death and make her want to run far away.

Being too emotional, too soon tells her you are the type of guy that becomes obsessed easily.  She will start to wonder if you really do care about her or if you just don’t want to be alone.  She will always question your feelings and that is no good for the long run.

Letting Her Call All the Shots

Some women love to be in charge, but most women still like to let the man be in charge.  The women’s movement didn’t fully penetrate into relationships.  Women still want to know their man is there to protect them and that they can follow him.

When you become too submissive you become weak in her eyes.  No woman I know wants a weak man.  Don’t surrender completely to her.  Call the shots sometimes.  Let her call the shots sometimes.  Make it a partnership.

Constantly Asking Her How She Feels

I know understanding women is hard.  We are not always easy to figure out.  However, that does not mean that you should keep asking her how she feels.  Take some initiative man!

You can figure out how she feels without her having to tell you.  When you just keep asking it shows her that you really are not in tune with her feelings and can make her doubt the connection between you.

These things are sure fire ways to kill a relationship.  Don’t believe every myth you have heard about women and what they want.  Be yourself.  Be a man.  Make her want you by not playing the role of the wuss.

Why Women Have Trust Issues

Chances are that she is having trouble trusting you because of something that happened to her in a past relationship.  Maybe you are doing things that you are unaware of that are making her feel uneasy.

She may have trouble trusting you because she may not understand you.  Things you say may not seem straightforward to her.  You may confuse her and make her question what you really mean.

What to Do

You have to build up her trust in you.  You have to start doing things that will make her see she can trust you.  If you want to make promises to her then follow through on them.  This is a biggie.  If you make promises that you don’t keep then she probably will never trust you.

Let her know that you are there for her in every way and then be there for her.  Don’t leave her feeling alone.  Your job is to make her feel secure and safe.  She will trust in you when she can believe in you.

It can be a long road to getting a woman to fully trust you.  If you really love her and want a long lasting relationship, though, then you have to build that trust and get her to really have faith in you.

Fear And Doubt Are Relationship Killers

Calm down, buddy.  Don’t get all excited and do something stupid.  Fear can be a real relationship killer. Be warned!  Think calmly and ponder this question with your feet firmly planted on the ground.

Start by quieting your mind and gathering your thoughts.  Why did you even think this question in the first place?  Did something happen?  Did you just realize you were starting to feel something you didn’t before?  Are you falling hopelessly in love and you feel out of control?  Many things can trigger your thoughts, but whatever triggered you to start questioning your relationship needs to be examined.

What Got You Started On The Question?

Once you pinpoint that trigger then you can really begin to feel out the situation.  In some cases it may just be your own doubt about yourself and your willingness to be committed.  It could also be that she has started acting different and you are afraid she wants to break up.  Whatever it is, you need to really think about this.

When you can answer this question honestly it can take your relationship to a whole new level.  It can also make you see when things just are not working out.  In the end, whether she is “the one” or not, you will feel good about it because it is what’s right for you.  Don’t feel bad about what the outcome is.  Everyone questions their relationship at some point because eventually you have to decide if you will stay with your girlfriend or if it is right to move on.