Find a Woman Who is Fun

Let me clarify. Fun does not mean that she dances on bars or has never opted out of a wet t shirt contest.  Fun means that you like and enjoy being around her.  A fun woman can make you laugh and she is never dull to be around.

She is Kid Friendly

This does not mean that she has to have kids or that she wants to meet your kids right away.  What this means is that her lifestyle is open to kids.  Does she drive a safe car?  Does she get drunk every weekend?  Does she have any children in her life that she talks about?  Would she be someone who you would normally allow around your kids?  If this woman is not someone you would let your kids around then she is not worth your time.  I don’t care how hot she is.

Bottom Line

You have to find the balance between what you like in a woman and what you need in a woman.  Remember if things should progress nicely, this woman could become your kids step mom.  While attraction is important, you are a dad and you should always keep your kids in mind when choosing a woman to date.  Not every woman you are attracted to will be the right type of woman for you to date.  You have to find the balance because you are playing a whole new game now that you are a dating dad.

Tip #1: Don’t be a player.

If you still feel like you want to play the field and you know you are not ready to settle down then you are not ready to date a mom.  Dating a woman who is a mother requires a mature behavior.  She will drop you quick if she feels you won’t stick around because no mother wants to put their kids through getting close to someone new  just to watch that person leave.  If you play a mom then expect to face some serious consequences.

Tip #2: Keep it real.

If you want to actually make this relationship work then you have to be real.  You have to be honest and you have to communicate.  You should never play games with her.  If you are not feeling comfortable then just tell her.  It is better to break things off early than to stick around because you feel you have to.  She will be much easier to deal with if you end things now then later.

Tip #3: Don’t treat her like a mom.

Remember that you are still dating a woman.  Mom or not, she wants to be romanced and she wants to find that passion in her relationship.  You need to treat her like you would any other woman.  Romance her and show her that you think she is one hot mama.

In order to make dating as a single dad easier you need some grounds rules to get you started.  Here are some top pieces of advice that can help a single dad looking to get back on the dating scene.

Single Dad Dating Guide

• Always keep communication open between you and your kids.  You should never just spring this on them.  Depending on their age you should either just outright tell them you are going to date again and discuss that with them or you should communicate in a way that is age appropriate.  You need to make sure your child doesn’t feel threatened by this new situation.

• Look for women who you would want your kids to be around.  You probably want to skip the bar scene and instead try something more mature.  You should find women who are open minded, settled and secure with themselves.

• Do not jump into anything.  It can be tempting to just get serious right away with the first woman you start dating.  No matter how you feel, you should always take it slow.  You want to ease everyone involved into the situation.

Your main priority should be to find a woman that gets along with your children, your children like and that you like.  It is much harder than dating before you had your kids, but you just have to accept that.  In the end you have to find someone who will fit into your family and who will be a good role model for your kids.