His Idea About Post Break Up Sex

Other women will do almost anything to try to get their ex back.  Some even try to use sex as a weapon to lure their ex back to them.  Having sex with your ex is never a good idea and it certainly won’t bring him back.

Guys typically do not view sex in the same emotional context as women do.  They see it purely as a physically fulfilling event.  So, to think that you could win him back with sex is a little off the mark.

What will end up happening is he will go along with it because he likes sex.  He may even keep coming back, but it isn’t for the emotional connection.  He just wants sex.

Wake Up

Sex was only one part of your relationship.  He can go get that elsewhere.  In order to really get an ex back he has to want you back.  He has to be willing to work through things and that has to be done outside the bedroom.  Using sex to get an ex back never works.  In the rare case that it does, it is usually only because sex led to conversation about the relationship issues.

The most likely outcome of a post break up romp is that you will feel used and more upset than before.  Your emotions will be hurting and you will have an even harder time moving on.

1. Get your head straight. You need to be sure you want him back.  Work out the negative thoughts.  Make sure he is what you want and that you just aren’t afraid of being alone.

2. Face reality. You broke up.  That is what is real.  There were real reasons behind it.  You need to figure out what those were.  You can’t fix things with him if you don’t know why they were messed up.

3. Let him be. Just as you need time to think and look over things, he does, too.  Give him time.  If he wants to talk to you then he will contact you.  Give him space, though.  When you feel you have your mind straight then try reaching out to him, gently.

4. Become confident. Nothing makes you more desirable than confidence.  Take time to pamper yourself.  If want to get in shape then start working out.  Not only will focusing on yourself help build your confidence but it will also help you to not focus on your ex.

5. Let time be your friend. Don’t rush.  Sometimes a little time is all you need for you both to see that you are not happier without each other and that you do want to give your relationship another try.

Getting back your ex does not always happen, but when you go about trying to get him back in a sensible manner, you will feel much better about yourself and the situation.

• Spreading rumors. It may seem odd, but many women start to spread nasty rumors about an ex in hopes that other women will hear and he won’t be able to get anyone else.  However, common sense usually prevails here and rumors only come back to bite you.

• Making him jealous. This is a common tactic.  We think that by flaunting ourselves about with a new man on our arm that our ex will suddenly get extremely jealous and want us back.  What really happens is he either gets disgusted because he knows it is an act or he takes it serious and believes you moved on and so should he.

• Becoming a stalker. Stalking is just scary.  Plus, it is illegal, so don’t do it.  Period.

• Seeking revenge. Imagine how mad he will get if you try something vengeful.  That is not likely to make him want you back, so avoid the Hollywood revenge scene.

• Driving him crazy with messages. Whether you are texting, calling or emailing, don’t bombard him with messages.  He will simply get annoyed and probably block you from further communication.

These five things are great examples of common behavior women use to get an ex back.  They are also good examples of why most women fail to get their ex back.  The lesson here is to avoid anything that could be classified as crazy.

Moving On Email is a Bad Idea

Sending a “moving on” email will not do the relationship any good.  If your ex has not moved on or still wants to be with you, he may take this as a sign that you want more.  If he has moved on then he may think you are trying to get back with him and that could make him defensive.  Any way you look at it, the “moving on” email is not a good thing.

It probably will not even provide you with the closure that you want.  You may pour your heart out and you probably will never know if he read it or not.  He will not likely reply so you will never get to have that final conversation.  You really did want to know what he felt and where he stood about things and that is why you wrote the email, right?

Write The email… Then Hit Delete

If you feel you must write this email then go ahead, but don’t send it.  That will be just as helpful and not cause as much trouble.  You will get all your feelings out and never have to sit around wondering if he read it.  Plus, you won’t have to deal with a possible reply or reaction to the email.  Keep this final email to yourself because it really is for your benefit and not his.

The best way to say that you have moved on is to just move on.  Guys are more about action than words anyway, so get on with your life.