Be Ready To Run

Literally and figuratively, be ready to run. For outfit, compromise between sexy and practical. Don’t give up your trendy style, however, in the rare, but life changing, event that you have to run for the hills, make sure your skirt is not to tight and your heels are not slowing you down. Have 911 on speed dial and voice recognition.

Announce that you have something in thirty minutes so you might not be able to stay for long. Have a text message ready to be sent that says “call me now” to your backup girl to give her the hint that is time to call you with the bad news. And for the backup to the backup plan, make sure he sits giving his back to the door so that you can leave on your way to the bathroom.

Be Prepared to Be Left Standing

If there’s one time you will be stood up, it’s on the blind date; interests are just very low and you never know the real story of why he agreed in the first place. So be prepared to end up alone. Bring a book; buy a new purse if you have to, but make sure you bring something to read. This way, whether your date show up or not, you will enjoy yourself.

Choose a strategic location; when a door close, another open. If one man doesn’t show up, be ready to pick up another one. It’s time to put in practice all those flirting tips you have been ready. After all, you were feeling adventurous which is why you agreed to the blind date. Don’t stop there, go the distance, seduce a better man.

Open Your Mind to The Possibility Of Fun

Blind dates are not all that bad, there are pretty good stories too but they are all outshined by the nightmares that sometimes happen. So, open your mind to the possibility of having fun. Find out as much as you can about your date and look for things you have in common. Have a few anecdotes handy and be genuinely interested in learning about the person in front of you.

As you open your mind and your heart, you might meet someone who although not right for you, is perfect for your sister. Or maybe you will learn more about yourself as you discover what you like and don’t like in a date. And there is always the eventuality that you will fall head over heel in love, but for that, there’s probably no survival guide.

Search Your Date Online For Free

Google his name. All you need is his name and access to the internet. By typing his name in Google, you will be surprise how much information you can find. Also, if the person has a Facebook account, or any other type of social account, it will usually come up with your search results. This is very helpful as it narrows down for you the list of sites you have to investigate.

Search Facebook. You may or may not find something on Google. However, think about the person you are meeting to have an idea of what demographic they fit into. For example, people who are dating online are more likely than not to have a Facebook and a Twitter account. So if you don’t find anything in Google, it’s probably because he is using a different name. Even if it is the case, you can still find him, as he is probably using his picture. Start by thinking about the few things you know about him, or ask him more information. Does he play a game? What is his hometown? Which of his friends do you know? By getting small inputs here and there, you can narrow your Facebook search enough to find him.

Use Your Network To Find Out More About Him

Talk to your friends and family. Chances are, your friends and family know something you don’t that could help you with other means you could use to find out more about him. Ask if they know him, or if they know someone who knows him. Ask about their experience with him, and any advice they are willing to give. In any case, just casually throwing his name will get people start talking and you can learn a lot without even asking a question.

Find out who he hangs out with. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. If you are not comfortable with who he hangs out with, you won’t be comfortable with him. You can ask him to tell you about his best friends, about his network. People are less reluctant to talk about other people. So where he was unwilling to tell you about himself, he might open a floodgate and tell you about his buddies. If you are paying attention, you will gather enough information to know a lot about him. Also use the information he gives you about his friends to investigate them and work your way back to him.

Spend Some Money To Investigate Your Date

Run a background check. Online background check are less and less expensive and it’s a question of risk and reward ratio. If you gut is telling you to find out more about your date, then don’t be reluctant, do it. It’s like insurance; you don’t really need it until something happens, then you wish you had it when you didn’t need it. Background check is a good idea, even after you have known the person for a while because people don’t go around advertising the bad things they did.

Hire an investigator. Ok, we are only talking about going on a date here, not marrying the person. So if you feel you have to hire an investigator, my advice is don’t go out with him. But you have your reasons. As a last resort, you can hire an investigator to give you a thorough profile on your prospects. Just be prepare to shed some serious money.

Put Your Halloween Dress. Since Halloween is your favourite holiday, put on that sexy kitten dress you have hanging in the dresser. It’s a shame that such a sexy dress should go to waste. Never mind it makes you go from a girl who works to a “working girl”.

Overdo the Makeup. You have always wanted to be on Broadway, and since it might not happen, you will settle for the makeup. Decorate your face as if you were ready to give the performance of your life. Of course, the lighting in the street is different from the scene’s and you will not be on camera, but no one will probably notice.

Convince Yourself It’s The One. True, you don’t know anything about him, but your best friend set you up, so it must be The One. It doesn’t matter that you had to threaten your girlfriend to set you up with anyone or you would jump up the bridge and she finally gave in and called in a favour. Who needs the details? He is The One and you will make him realize that.

Drink Too Much. You are in front of your soul mate and you need all the courage you can get. Anyway, the drinks doesn’t seem to contain any alcohol. Also, you wouldn’t want to be impolite and say no when he offers to top your glass.

Talk About Your Grandkids. You already have your future together mapped and you can see the two of you playing with your grandkids. You can’t wait to share all that vision and you know he’ll just love hearing about it. Tell him about your wedding gown you have already purchased, about his tuxedo you already designed, and where the two of you will live. And of course, he will say yes.

Make a Public Announcement. Why leave everyone around you out? Get up and tell them how you feel and how much you are in love. Tell them everything, don’t leave anything out. Of course, don’t disappoint them when they ask for a kiss. In fact, be proactive and offer to  display one for their amusement. Go right for it, reach out for him, and try to give him a passionate kiss.

Finally, try to kiss him. Because that’s probably as close as you will get. By this time, your date would have had enough. The only reason he probably stayed this long is because he wanted to see how far you would go. But this is if you are lucky. Because if you are not, he will take you somewhere more private.

Blind Dates Are Strangers?

Most of us don’t stop to think about it, but we go on more blind date than we think. What is a blind date? At first, the easy answer is going on a date with some you know nothing or very little about. Usually, you have never even seen the person. Some other times, you have seen a picture and got some information from the matchmaker that usually goes along the line of “he is so cute, you are going to love each other.”

Now, let’s consider the last time you went on a date. Was it someone you met at a party? Or did you meet online? Or maybe you met at the coffee shop around the corner, or during happy hour after work on Friday evening. The truth is, despite everything we believe, more often than not, we know very little about the person we will be meeting for the first date. In fact, if you met the person online, you cannot swear you know what the person even looks like.

More Blind Dates Than You Think

Whether we like the idea or not, most of our dates are blind. The super cute dude at the party last night can’t actually hold a conversation that interest you for five minutes and his favourite word is “dude”. The sexy gentleman at the coffee shop is so full of himself you have to hold yourself from throwing up. And your online date, well, he forgot to mention the picture was his cousin’s or his ten year younger version.

Blind date isn’t just when all your married friends try to see you join the club by setting you up with the first single they can meet. Blind date is also when you willingly meet with someone you thought had potential just to discover two minutes in the meeting that you must have had one too many drinks when you agreed to the date.

Who Is The Blind On Your Date?

But more importantly, what’s blind about the date isn’t the other person, or the very little we know about him. What makes a date blind is our own inflated expectations, our overenthusiastic dreams, and our hopes beyond hopes that suddenly we are going to meet “the one” walking down the street and he will sweep us off our feet.

The blind on a blind date is each one of us who choose to close her eyes and see what she wants. This is not to say we shouldn’t dream or hope. It’s only to say as long as we hope too much, and expect too much before we have even had a decent conversation with someone, we will always be going on a blind date.

Let’s be honest, no girl wish the day didn’t exist; she probably just wish it would be skipped from the calendar the year she is single. In any case, valentine’s day is not going anywhere, so a girl has to learn to not only survive it but actually enjoy it even more than her coupled fiends.

Valentine’s Day Equals Heartbreaks

Yes it is possible to have more fun being single on Valentine’s Day than your girlfriends. Think about it; how many times have you heard the same sad stories post Valentines? The promising boyfriend who didn’t show up because the relationship was actually just casual for him. The gift that was thoughtless and so obviously picked at the last minute from the drugstore around the corner. The ring that didn’t come, and instead the stuffed dog she got.

You may not realize it, but as a single girl you have a lot of allies: single guys. There are many guys out there who are in a worst position than you are, whether because they are not attached or because they don’t want to commit. What ever their reasons, you can take advantage of the fact that there are many single men in your circle that could use some fun on that day as well. Your couple friends will be all too glad to recommend you their single guys friends when you ask as they are always so eager to play the matchmaker.

Bachelors Party

So what can you do? Set yourself up to be their princess on that day. Get your single guy friends out of their misery by having a single guys party to celebrate the single life and a stress-free Valentine’s Day. Be clear that it is not a party to set them up, since the only female present will be you. It is an opportunity for you and them to laugh at all that will go bad that night as well if you want to or do anything else you all feel like.

Choose as theme for the party something the guys will enjoy and that you will too. You can rent a video of a famous game you enjoy, or organize an indoor game that is fun and entertaining for the guys and you. Have them bring something so you don’t have to spend too much. Let them know it’s fully casual, but make sure you don’t dress like one of the boys. You want to remain feminine so they will treat you like a princess, yet not so feminine that they will not feel relax around you.

Spice Up The Night

Let the guys know no subject is taboo so they don’t feel restrained but be prepared to hear some stuff you might not like. In any case, make it some sort of research project to understand how guys think. If you give them a great night on Valentine’s Day without all the mediatized pressure, they will not only be very grateful and make sure you are happy as well, but you might actually end up with more dates than you can handle.

To give the night the perfect ending, make your pick of anyone of those sexy bachelors in awe of you and have the sex of your life. Just don’t get too attached. The next day, when all your girlfriends will be telling you about their valentine’s day gone bad, you will have an unmistakable smile that will let everyone know you had the perfect night, yet you are single.

Valentine’s Day is About Celebrating Love

Yes Valentine’s Day is a couple celebration of their love, but more importantly it is the celebration of love and there is someone who loves you, or at least should love you, more than any one else; you. You are in love with yourself, in a healthy way of course, but you are. And valentine’s Day should be the day you remember to celebrate that love.

Remind Yourself Why You Love You

This is more important than it seems at first; if you don’t know why you love or should love yourself, how can you expect someone else to fall in love with you? Take the time to reflect, write it down, all the things you love about who you are. Go down the memory lane with you, revisit all those things that made you smile, all those moments that made you cried. Yes, embrace the past lovers, bad or good, and be grateful for each of them because they made you who you are and you love the person you have become.

Show Your Love For Your Beautiful Being

Send yourself flowers at the office with a romantic note attached, from you to you. By that gift for yourself, book that day at the spa, go on that romantic trip. If you can’t enjoy your own company, again, don’t expect anyone to. You see, you deserve to be pampered by you, not out of pity or defiance, but out of true love and gratitude for always being there for you when you need you. Do you know how many times you have picked yourself up on your own and kept moving when nobody else was able to do that? Show your wonderful being that you are grateful for your love.

Celebrate The Love Of Your Friends

If you have many friends who are in a relationship, help them with their own love lives. Not everybody in a relationship is happy on valentines day and you might just be the one who gives them the push they need. Send love notes to your coupled friends about what you love in their relationship and why because of them you still believe in love. They will be grateful for you and your card might just be the star of the day because it will help them remember why they fell in love. And they might be so grateful that will start looking for a wonderful guy for you.

Host a Single Party

why stay home alone on Valentine’s Day when they are so many singles who are also staying home? have a party either to celebrate or mock love, your choice. Whatever you decide make sure everyone understand it is for fun not to date. Your goal is to relieve the pressure from your single friends and make everyone laugh. don’t have enough friends? No worries, all your coupled friends know at least one single they wish they could help on that day. they will be happy to send that friend the invite and if you focus on fun, that person will happy to come. And who knows what might happen.

Who Is Mr. Perfect

Wen all have these better notions of ourselves, I guess the person we think we would want to be. We live in some kind of lies almost all our lives, wanting to believe so hard that we are what we really aren’t. Just ask our friends. And sadly, and very unfortunately, we create someone for this ideal version of ourselves, someone who fits just perfectly with the picture, Mr. Perfect.

The only problem with that is that Mr. Perfect might be well, perfect, it’s usually not for the real us. He is the ideal mate for this fictional being we have created in our mind and whom we imagine is us, despite how many times our friends tells we are so not what we think we are. But well, what can a girl do? After all, she needs a decent dream, one she can be proud of.

Signs You Are Dating Mr. Perfect

Suddenly you find yourself trying a little harder, keeping those little habits that make you who you are in check when he’s around and telling your friends that he actually make you a better person. You are obsessed with what he thinks of you and you have never invited him to your place, even though you have been dating for five months.

You start second guessing yourself, the little pranks you and your friends used to pull and laugh so hard at now embarrasses you. You never invite him when you go out with your pals; God forbid they should do something that would shame you in his eyes. You are constantly worried that you will mess things up, and you certainly can’t afford that; why, he is so perfect.

Mr. Perfect Doesn’t Equate To Mr. Right

Some of use never wake up on hour own, usually Mr. Perfect, who has known all along that you were no Mrs. Right, tires of you, or meet Mrs. Right, or get attracted by the next shining thing. The result is the same; you are left hanging, wondering what went wrong. You had been so caught up building your dream life you missed the fact that your foundation was made of sand.

Mr. Right may not have the perfect hair cut, nor look like a god in jean, nor have a smile that makes you forget your name, nor drive your favourite sports car, nor have that apartment with the million dollar view. No Mr. Right may have none of those things that make Mr. Perfect perfect, but he has one thing that no one else has; with him you are simply who you are and happy. And if you would just gather the courage to introduce him to your friends, you will see just how perfectly he fits.

Men and Women Are Different

Men and women react differently during an argument.  This is simple human nature.  Men tend to react more strongly during an argument than women do.  By understanding how he reacts, you can start to change the way you argue to make it more productive.

A Woman’s Reaction

When arguing women tend to want to keep the conversation going.  We like to talk things out and get our thoughts out there.  Our focus is not really on solving the problem, but rather just telling how we feel.  We generally take the active role during a fight.

A Man’s Reaction

Men, on the other hand, are more reserved. They are passive.  They want to resolve the issue, but they are not as big on sharing how they feel.  They want to solve the problem and get to the solution as soon as possible.

Using this to Help During a Fight

Now that you know the differences in how men and women react during an argument you can see that if you want a fast resolution without adding fuel to the flames that you should focus on a solution.  That does not mean that you cannot share your feelings.  Rather you should focus on the problem first and then after you have calmed down and solved the problem, you can talk about your feelings.  Using this strategy should help you to keep arguments productive instead of destructive.

Charm His Taste buds

What guy doesn’t love food?  Whip him up something he will love.  When you make food, you know it is something he doesn’t have and when you make it yourself, you are going that extra mile to show him how much he means to you.

Get Crafty

I’m not talking a dorky project like you would have made your mom in elementary school.  Put together a digital picture frame with pictures of you or you and him together.  Make him a t shirt or pillowcase with your picture on it.  Make him something he can use and enjoy.

Do It Old School

Make him a “mix tape”.  Put together a play list for his mp3 player or burn a CD for him to listen to in the car.  Make it some of his favorites mixed in with some songs you know will remind him of you.

Coupons

I am sure there are a lot of things he begs you to do that you usually say no to.  Treat him to a coupon book full of coupons to use for some of his favorite things, such as a back rub or a Sunday of football with a promise not to bug him

These ideas are just a start.  You really have to get creative and start looking beyond the obvious.  Don’t go shopping the store.  Instead look inside your heart to find the perfect gift for your guy.

Don’t overanalyze what he says.

Sometimes you just have to listen to what he is saying.  He may be telling you outright that he doesn’t want to get married, but you are just not getting it.  If he has says something like marriage is not something he has given much thought to or that he doesn’t believe you have to be married to have a great, long lasting relationship then you should wake up.

What he’s really telling you is that he not interested in the idea of marriage at all.  The chances of you getting married are slim to none, no matter what else he may have said or done.

Look at his past.

You have to consider his past relationships.  If he has never really settled down with a woman and has dated around a lot then maybe he is not really keen on the idea of commitment.  If he has been engaged before but broke it off or if he has even been married before, these are signs that may tell you he is not really interested in being married.

Consider his priorities in life.

Everyone has things that they prioritize in their life.  Some people put their career first.  Some people put their friends first and other put their family first.  If a man is ready to get married then they will put their priorities in their family and in you.  If he doesn’t seem to be doing that then he may not be the marrying type.

Is he mature?

Marriage is an adult thing.  If your man is still acting as if he’s in high school, he simply is not at a maturity level where he can even be ready to marry.  A man that is ready to settle down is mature.  He has his priorities straight and he is really focused on you and your relationship.  He should not be selfish or childish if you want to marry him.

Consider where he is at in life.

A man that is ready to marry will be ready to settle down.  This means financially he will be able to commit to you and your relationship.  He will be ready to focus on your marriage and do what needs to be done to commit and make it a strong union.

Tips:

• It is a myth that all men fear commitment.  There really are guys out there who crave a relationship and even dream about getting married.

• Maturity should be gauged in general.  Every person has their immature moments.  You should consider your man’s general behavior when you try to gauge his maturity.

• Sometimes men tell you what you want to hear.  Even though he has said that he wants to marry you, if all the signs above point to him not being ready then you really should take a deeper look at things.