Let’s be honest, no girl wish the day didn’t exist; she probably just wish it would be skipped from the calendar the year she is single. In any case, valentine’s day is not going anywhere, so a girl has to learn to not only survive it but actually enjoy it even more than her coupled fiends.

Valentine’s Day Equals Heartbreaks

Yes it is possible to have more fun being single on Valentine’s Day than your girlfriends. Think about it; how many times have you heard the same sad stories post Valentines? The promising boyfriend who didn’t show up because the relationship was actually just casual for him. The gift that was thoughtless and so obviously picked at the last minute from the drugstore around the corner. The ring that didn’t come, and instead the stuffed dog she got.

You may not realize it, but as a single girl you have a lot of allies: single guys. There are many guys out there who are in a worst position than you are, whether because they are not attached or because they don’t want to commit. What ever their reasons, you can take advantage of the fact that there are many single men in your circle that could use some fun on that day as well. Your couple friends will be all too glad to recommend you their single guys friends when you ask as they are always so eager to play the matchmaker.

Bachelors Party

So what can you do? Set yourself up to be their princess on that day. Get your single guy friends out of their misery by having a single guys party to celebrate the single life and a stress-free Valentine’s Day. Be clear that it is not a party to set them up, since the only female present will be you. It is an opportunity for you and them to laugh at all that will go bad that night as well if you want to or do anything else you all feel like.

Choose as theme for the party something the guys will enjoy and that you will too. You can rent a video of a famous game you enjoy, or organize an indoor game that is fun and entertaining for the guys and you. Have them bring something so you don’t have to spend too much. Let them know it’s fully casual, but make sure you don’t dress like one of the boys. You want to remain feminine so they will treat you like a princess, yet not so feminine that they will not feel relax around you.

Spice Up The Night

Let the guys know no subject is taboo so they don’t feel restrained but be prepared to hear some stuff you might not like. In any case, make it some sort of research project to understand how guys think. If you give them a great night on Valentine’s Day without all the mediatized pressure, they will not only be very grateful and make sure you are happy as well, but you might actually end up with more dates than you can handle.

To give the night the perfect ending, make your pick of anyone of those sexy bachelors in awe of you and have the sex of your life. Just don’t get too attached. The next day, when all your girlfriends will be telling you about their valentine’s day gone bad, you will have an unmistakable smile that will let everyone know you had the perfect night, yet you are single.

Valentine’s Day is About Celebrating Love

Yes Valentine’s Day is a couple celebration of their love, but more importantly it is the celebration of love and there is someone who loves you, or at least should love you, more than any one else; you. You are in love with yourself, in a healthy way of course, but you are. And valentine’s Day should be the day you remember to celebrate that love.

Remind Yourself Why You Love You

This is more important than it seems at first; if you don’t know why you love or should love yourself, how can you expect someone else to fall in love with you? Take the time to reflect, write it down, all the things you love about who you are. Go down the memory lane with you, revisit all those things that made you smile, all those moments that made you cried. Yes, embrace the past lovers, bad or good, and be grateful for each of them because they made you who you are and you love the person you have become.

Show Your Love For Your Beautiful Being

Send yourself flowers at the office with a romantic note attached, from you to you. By that gift for yourself, book that day at the spa, go on that romantic trip. If you can’t enjoy your own company, again, don’t expect anyone to. You see, you deserve to be pampered by you, not out of pity or defiance, but out of true love and gratitude for always being there for you when you need you. Do you know how many times you have picked yourself up on your own and kept moving when nobody else was able to do that? Show your wonderful being that you are grateful for your love.

Celebrate The Love Of Your Friends

If you have many friends who are in a relationship, help them with their own love lives. Not everybody in a relationship is happy on valentines day and you might just be the one who gives them the push they need. Send love notes to your coupled friends about what you love in their relationship and why because of them you still believe in love. They will be grateful for you and your card might just be the star of the day because it will help them remember why they fell in love. And they might be so grateful that will start looking for a wonderful guy for you.

Host a Single Party

why stay home alone on Valentine’s Day when they are so many singles who are also staying home? have a party either to celebrate or mock love, your choice. Whatever you decide make sure everyone understand it is for fun not to date. Your goal is to relieve the pressure from your single friends and make everyone laugh. don’t have enough friends? No worries, all your coupled friends know at least one single they wish they could help on that day. they will be happy to send that friend the invite and if you focus on fun, that person will happy to come. And who knows what might happen.

Who Is Mr. Perfect

Wen all have these better notions of ourselves, I guess the person we think we would want to be. We live in some kind of lies almost all our lives, wanting to believe so hard that we are what we really aren’t. Just ask our friends. And sadly, and very unfortunately, we create someone for this ideal version of ourselves, someone who fits just perfectly with the picture, Mr. Perfect.

The only problem with that is that Mr. Perfect might be well, perfect, it’s usually not for the real us. He is the ideal mate for this fictional being we have created in our mind and whom we imagine is us, despite how many times our friends tells we are so not what we think we are. But well, what can a girl do? After all, she needs a decent dream, one she can be proud of.

Signs You Are Dating Mr. Perfect

Suddenly you find yourself trying a little harder, keeping those little habits that make you who you are in check when he’s around and telling your friends that he actually make you a better person. You are obsessed with what he thinks of you and you have never invited him to your place, even though you have been dating for five months.

You start second guessing yourself, the little pranks you and your friends used to pull and laugh so hard at now embarrasses you. You never invite him when you go out with your pals; God forbid they should do something that would shame you in his eyes. You are constantly worried that you will mess things up, and you certainly can’t afford that; why, he is so perfect.

Mr. Perfect Doesn’t Equate To Mr. Right

Some of use never wake up on hour own, usually Mr. Perfect, who has known all along that you were no Mrs. Right, tires of you, or meet Mrs. Right, or get attracted by the next shining thing. The result is the same; you are left hanging, wondering what went wrong. You had been so caught up building your dream life you missed the fact that your foundation was made of sand.

Mr. Right may not have the perfect hair cut, nor look like a god in jean, nor have a smile that makes you forget your name, nor drive your favourite sports car, nor have that apartment with the million dollar view. No Mr. Right may have none of those things that make Mr. Perfect perfect, but he has one thing that no one else has; with him you are simply who you are and happy. And if you would just gather the courage to introduce him to your friends, you will see just how perfectly he fits.

Men and Women Are Different

Men and women react differently during an argument.  This is simple human nature.  Men tend to react more strongly during an argument than women do.  By understanding how he reacts, you can start to change the way you argue to make it more productive.

A Woman’s Reaction

When arguing women tend to want to keep the conversation going.  We like to talk things out and get our thoughts out there.  Our focus is not really on solving the problem, but rather just telling how we feel.  We generally take the active role during a fight.

A Man’s Reaction

Men, on the other hand, are more reserved. They are passive.  They want to resolve the issue, but they are not as big on sharing how they feel.  They want to solve the problem and get to the solution as soon as possible.

Using this to Help During a Fight

Now that you know the differences in how men and women react during an argument you can see that if you want a fast resolution without adding fuel to the flames that you should focus on a solution.  That does not mean that you cannot share your feelings.  Rather you should focus on the problem first and then after you have calmed down and solved the problem, you can talk about your feelings.  Using this strategy should help you to keep arguments productive instead of destructive.

Charm His Taste buds

What guy doesn’t love food?  Whip him up something he will love.  When you make food, you know it is something he doesn’t have and when you make it yourself, you are going that extra mile to show him how much he means to you.

Get Crafty

I’m not talking a dorky project like you would have made your mom in elementary school.  Put together a digital picture frame with pictures of you or you and him together.  Make him a t shirt or pillowcase with your picture on it.  Make him something he can use and enjoy.

Do It Old School

Make him a “mix tape”.  Put together a play list for his mp3 player or burn a CD for him to listen to in the car.  Make it some of his favorites mixed in with some songs you know will remind him of you.

Coupons

I am sure there are a lot of things he begs you to do that you usually say no to.  Treat him to a coupon book full of coupons to use for some of his favorite things, such as a back rub or a Sunday of football with a promise not to bug him

These ideas are just a start.  You really have to get creative and start looking beyond the obvious.  Don’t go shopping the store.  Instead look inside your heart to find the perfect gift for your guy.

Don’t overanalyze what he says.

Sometimes you just have to listen to what he is saying.  He may be telling you outright that he doesn’t want to get married, but you are just not getting it.  If he has says something like marriage is not something he has given much thought to or that he doesn’t believe you have to be married to have a great, long lasting relationship then you should wake up.

What he’s really telling you is that he not interested in the idea of marriage at all.  The chances of you getting married are slim to none, no matter what else he may have said or done.

Look at his past.

You have to consider his past relationships.  If he has never really settled down with a woman and has dated around a lot then maybe he is not really keen on the idea of commitment.  If he has been engaged before but broke it off or if he has even been married before, these are signs that may tell you he is not really interested in being married.

Consider his priorities in life.

Everyone has things that they prioritize in their life.  Some people put their career first.  Some people put their friends first and other put their family first.  If a man is ready to get married then they will put their priorities in their family and in you.  If he doesn’t seem to be doing that then he may not be the marrying type.

Is he mature?

Marriage is an adult thing.  If your man is still acting as if he’s in high school, he simply is not at a maturity level where he can even be ready to marry.  A man that is ready to settle down is mature.  He has his priorities straight and he is really focused on you and your relationship.  He should not be selfish or childish if you want to marry him.

Consider where he is at in life.

A man that is ready to marry will be ready to settle down.  This means financially he will be able to commit to you and your relationship.  He will be ready to focus on your marriage and do what needs to be done to commit and make it a strong union.

Tips:

• It is a myth that all men fear commitment.  There really are guys out there who crave a relationship and even dream about getting married.

• Maturity should be gauged in general.  Every person has their immature moments.  You should consider your man’s general behavior when you try to gauge his maturity.

• Sometimes men tell you what you want to hear.  Even though he has said that he wants to marry you, if all the signs above point to him not being ready then you really should take a deeper look at things.

The following list outlines things that you never tolerate from a jealous boyfriend.  If you experience any of these things then you need to rethink your relationship and possibly end things before they get too out of control.

• He is constantly putting you down.  If he is always hurling insults at you and it seems that nothing you do is acceptable, he is displaying classic jealousy symptoms.  He is trying to make you feel bad about yourself so you think he is the only man who will ever love you.

• You cannot do anything without reporting to him first.  If you no longer have control over what you do then this is a problem.  He is stripping you of your identity and he is controlling you.

• He doesn’t trust you at all.  No relationship can succeed unless there is trust.  If trust is nonexistent then the relationship becomes more about control and loses all sense of love.

• He takes away anything that he cannot control.  This might mean that he starts to drive you everywhere and doesn’t allow you to drive anymore.  He may take away your cell, probably citing money as the reason or suggesting you share a phone.

• He makes you feel bad if you spend time with anyone other than him.  A jealous man may start to use your emotions against you.  He will convince you that if you are not with him every day, all day that you don’t love him as you say you do.  In an attempt to make him see you do love him, you will likely stop hanging out with friends and family and find yourself with him 24/7.

• He makes you fear losing him.  Over time, he will drill it into your head that only he can love you like you need to be loved and if you ever lose him, you cannot find another man to be with.

• He gets physical.  This is a very serious issue that you simply cannot look past.  No man should ever hit you, push you, or otherwise use his physical strength to intimidate you.  Being afraid of someone is not love.  If you ever find yourself in a situation of abuse, you have to make sure that get away immediately.  This is never okay.

Jealousy can go way too far.  When a jealous boyfriend goes from being loving and caring to dominate and controlling, something is wrong.  Love should never be about controlling someone else.  It should be give and take. Real love isn’t about spending every moment together.  It is about cherishing when you are together and being able to trust each other enough to know when you are apart that you will find each other again.

No Guarantees

To begin with, you have to realize that blind dates may not work out.  You could meet him and have no chemistry.  You may not find him attractive at all.  It helps to go into your blind date without any expectation of meeting the love of your life.  Look at it as a nice time out and if you do find chemistry then consider yourself lucky.  When you have this attitude then it will make things much easier for you on your blind date and allow you to make it good experience instead of a tale of terror.

Look Good

Men don’t expect you to be a super model or a playboy playmate, but they do expect that you look good.  Take time to get ready.  Use makeup, but keep it simple and natural.  Dress nicely without showing too much skin or being too provocative.  Also avoid being too matronly.  Do your hair nicely and make sure that you look clean and neat.

Make Time for the Date

Make sure that your schedule is clear for the date.  You should not be interrupted with work duties or anything else.  You should be focused on the date and nothing else.  Guys do not like to play second fiddle to your cell phone, so it is smart to turn it off while on your date.

Be Nice

Guys know blind dates are not known for being the best dates.  They do expect you to be nice, though.  A guy wants a date that will not belittle him the whole time or act uninterested.  Even if you are not hitting it off, be considerate of him.  You don’t need to be rude at all for any reason.  That only makes you look bad.

Be Yourself

Putting on an act is a bad idea.  Just be yourself.  If things do end up going well then you want him to like you for you.  Even if you don’t want to continue a relationship, the date will be much better if you are just honest.

Conversation

One of the biggest fears about blind dates is that awkward silence when nobody can think of anything to say.  While you don’t want to ramble on, you should still do your part to keep the conversation going.  Have some conversation ideas in mind.  If in doubt just ask him questions about himself.

Blind dates do not have to be horrible.  You can make any blind date a fun experience, no matter how great you hit it off with the guy.  Make the most of the night by exceeding his expectations and being someone who is fun to hang out with for the night.

How do you do this?  Well, you start by avoiding these top five mistakes that will kill your first date:

Mistake #1: Dressing wrong.

It is a good idea to ask him what is planned for the date.  You don’t want to show up to the bowling alley wearing an evening dress.  Make sure to get an idea ahead of time.  If you have doubts, simply wear something that could be casual or dressy.  Do you best to find out what you should wear.

Mistake #2: Not allowing time for conversation.

If you are going somewhere with a group or somewhere that is crowded, it is important that you really try to get one on one time with him.  You want him to remember you, not just have fun.  You must steal some time to really talk with him so you can get to know each other.

Mistake #3: Overdoing anything.

Your nerves may be crazy, but that doesn’t mean that you should act out of control.  Don’t try to be too much fun by being too loud and obnoxious.  Don’t try to be too sexy by dressing like a slut.  Be yourself and don’t be thinking about what you can do to impress.

Mistake #4: Saying too much.

A common mistake is that women tend to be too open.  Talking is great, but be careful about what you say.  You don’t want to be too open.  Save something for the second date.  Make sure that you avoid awkward topics like past relationships and health issues.

Mistake #5: Having a cell that is constantly ringing.

Turn your cell off.  Nothing is more annoying than having your conversation interrupted over and over by a ringing cell phone. It is simply best to just turn it off for the whole duration of the date.

These five mistakes can really kill your first date.   There are other mistakes you can make, like drinking too much or showing up late, but these five mistakes are truly going to make your first date go horrible.  If you really like this guy, you should put your best foot forward.  It is important that you be yourself and that you do not put on a false front.

Your first date can be amazing.  All you have to do is avoid these mistakes.  You have to focus on having fun and focus on him.  Let yourself have a good time and don’t be too self-conscious.  At the end of the night, you will both be looking forward to date number two.

Here are five things that you can do to surprise him this holiday season:

1. Book a vacation get away. Whether it is for before the big holiday events or after everything is over, a vacation is a great time to get rid of all the holiday stress and to reconnect.  It can be something that does a lot of good for your relationship and that really helps him unwind from the holiday hustle and bustle.

2. Whisper sweet nothings. While this may not seem like much of a gift, it will lead to other things.  Try to do it at times when it will seem risky, like during Thanksgiving dinner.  You will really get his attention and make him feel great.

3. Plan an amazing Christmas Eve tryst. Christmas Eve is a very mellow time.  All the stress is starting to lift, the kids are in bed early, and it is just the two of you.  This is the perfect setting for a night of passion.

4. Make him breakfast in bed. It may seem simple, but during the holidays simple is just what the doctor ordered.  Make his favorite breakfast feast and serve it up in bed where he can enjoy it alone in peace and quiet, which is hard to find during the holidays.

5. Give him coupons to use throughout the next year. These are just not any coupons.  They are special coupons.  These coupons entitle him to those things he often wants but can’t have.  The coupons should indulge him and give him a free pass of sorts to get away with things you usually nag him about.

These five things are all little ways you can show him just how amazing he is and how much you care about him.  It is too easy for the stress of the holidays to eat away at your relationship.  By doing something to surprise him, you will let him know that the stress is temporary and that you still love him despite the craze of the holiday season that may has turned you into a raving, crazy woman who is focused on finding good deals and spends all her free time at the mall.

Doing something special for him will add a spark to romance and help you to ensure that your relationship doesn’t fall apart throughout the holiday season.  Holiday stress has been the downfall of many relationships.  Don’t become a victim.  Plan a small surprise and make sure that you don’t let him feel forgotten, used or overworked during the holidays.