Search Your Date Online For Free

Google his name. All you need is his name and access to the internet. By typing his name in Google, you will be surprise how much information you can find. Also, if the person has a Facebook account, or any other type of social account, it will usually come up with your search results. This is very helpful as it narrows down for you the list of sites you have to investigate.

Search Facebook. You may or may not find something on Google. However, think about the person you are meeting to have an idea of what demographic they fit into. For example, people who are dating online are more likely than not to have a Facebook and a Twitter account. So if you don’t find anything in Google, it’s probably because he is using a different name. Even if it is the case, you can still find him, as he is probably using his picture. Start by thinking about the few things you know about him, or ask him more information. Does he play a game? What is his hometown? Which of his friends do you know? By getting small inputs here and there, you can narrow your Facebook search enough to find him.

Use Your Network To Find Out More About Him

Talk to your friends and family. Chances are, your friends and family know something you don’t that could help you with other means you could use to find out more about him. Ask if they know him, or if they know someone who knows him. Ask about their experience with him, and any advice they are willing to give. In any case, just casually throwing his name will get people start talking and you can learn a lot without even asking a question.

Find out who he hangs out with. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. If you are not comfortable with who he hangs out with, you won’t be comfortable with him. You can ask him to tell you about his best friends, about his network. People are less reluctant to talk about other people. So where he was unwilling to tell you about himself, he might open a floodgate and tell you about his buddies. If you are paying attention, you will gather enough information to know a lot about him. Also use the information he gives you about his friends to investigate them and work your way back to him.

Spend Some Money To Investigate Your Date

Run a background check. Online background check are less and less expensive and it’s a question of risk and reward ratio. If you gut is telling you to find out more about your date, then don’t be reluctant, do it. It’s like insurance; you don’t really need it until something happens, then you wish you had it when you didn’t need it. Background check is a good idea, even after you have known the person for a while because people don’t go around advertising the bad things they did.

Hire an investigator. Ok, we are only talking about going on a date here, not marrying the person. So if you feel you have to hire an investigator, my advice is don’t go out with him. But you have your reasons. As a last resort, you can hire an investigator to give you a thorough profile on your prospects. Just be prepare to shed some serious money.

How do you do this?  Well, you start by avoiding these top five mistakes that will kill your first date:

Mistake #1: Dressing wrong.

It is a good idea to ask him what is planned for the date.  You don’t want to show up to the bowling alley wearing an evening dress.  Make sure to get an idea ahead of time.  If you have doubts, simply wear something that could be casual or dressy.  Do you best to find out what you should wear.

Mistake #2: Not allowing time for conversation.

If you are going somewhere with a group or somewhere that is crowded, it is important that you really try to get one on one time with him.  You want him to remember you, not just have fun.  You must steal some time to really talk with him so you can get to know each other.

Mistake #3: Overdoing anything.

Your nerves may be crazy, but that doesn’t mean that you should act out of control.  Don’t try to be too much fun by being too loud and obnoxious.  Don’t try to be too sexy by dressing like a slut.  Be yourself and don’t be thinking about what you can do to impress.

Mistake #4: Saying too much.

A common mistake is that women tend to be too open.  Talking is great, but be careful about what you say.  You don’t want to be too open.  Save something for the second date.  Make sure that you avoid awkward topics like past relationships and health issues.

Mistake #5: Having a cell that is constantly ringing.

Turn your cell off.  Nothing is more annoying than having your conversation interrupted over and over by a ringing cell phone. It is simply best to just turn it off for the whole duration of the date.

These five mistakes can really kill your first date.   There are other mistakes you can make, like drinking too much or showing up late, but these five mistakes are truly going to make your first date go horrible.  If you really like this guy, you should put your best foot forward.  It is important that you be yourself and that you do not put on a false front.

Your first date can be amazing.  All you have to do is avoid these mistakes.  You have to focus on having fun and focus on him.  Let yourself have a good time and don’t be too self-conscious.  At the end of the night, you will both be looking forward to date number two.

Does that mean you should expect him to pay on the first date?

There is no right or wrong answer for this question. I believe the best way to go is according to your convictions. I don’t think who pays on the first date is as important as whether you are being real and true to yourself. If you have been raised to expect him to pay, trying not to will set you both off on the wrong foot. That being said, men consider classy a woman who don’t assume they have to foot the bill.

Independent Feminist?

If you like to assert your independence and don’t like strangers to take care of you just because they are having dinner with you, by all means insist on handling your share. But make sure he is clear about your motives if you plan on seeing him again.  Men like to take care of women they fancy and most gentlemen will interpret your insistence as a sure sign you are not interested in them.

In Any Case Bring Your Wallet

Nevertheless, be ready to tackle your share as you never know how disastrous the first date can be. If things work out and you both become more intimate, as long as you are both focused on what truly matter, like making each other happy, who pays the bill should not be an issue. And if you find yourself always paying, I only have two words for you sister; dump him.