Examine your feelings.

It is important to really face how you feel about him.  Do you already have feelings that go beyond friendship?  If so then you need to face up to those now.  You need to address those feelings and act accordingly.  Maybe you do just feel friendship right now.  Are you happy being single?  Do you crave a relationship?  You need to be sure that you are okay with not being with him and that you are fine being single.  If not then beware because if you have dreams of a relationship then you will fall in love.

Face the reality.

You have to be realistic about things.  Can you do this without feeling anything?  How does he feel?  Before you take this step, you need to talk to him.  You both need to be honest with each other about how you feel.  This will get everything out on the table and you will both know what the other expects from this relationship.  If you cannot talk things out then you are in no place to get into dating or sleeping with each other.

Determine what you want.

You really need to be honest about what you want.  You should define where you see things going.  Figure out how it will work.  When you are trying to avoid falling for him, you have to treat it like an agreement of sorts.  Set limits and make sure that you won’t be tempted into falling for him.

Don’t be afraid to slow down.

If you start to realize your feelings are no longer under your control then slow things down.  Take a step back if you need to.  It can be hard because chances are he will fight for your friendship and want to be with you.  His pleas of being afraid of losing you can just complicate your emotions.  He is saying he doesn’t want to lose your friendship and if you are falling for him this can seem like he is falling for you.  It gets really confusing and sometimes you just need to put some space between you so you can get control over your feelings and reassess the situation to see where you go from here.

Tips:

• Don’t let him manipulate you.  If he is serious about being your friend then he will understand that you need space sometimes or the other limits that you place on your relationship.

• If you ever question his feelings then ask him.  Open communication is important.  If he is doing something that bothers you, tell him about it.  You need to be honest with each other every step of the way to avoid miscommunication and hurt feelings.

Take Things Out in the World

You need to take things out in public.  Start doing things together without it ending up in the bedroom.  You can even just try hanging out without getting physical.  This helps you to distance yourself from that buddy image and make him see you as more.

Talk

Conversation is important.  Get to know about him.  Let him know about you.  Have meaningful conversations about your dreams and goals.  This helps build a mental attraction.

Meet His Friends

Try to meet his friends.  This will get you into his inner circle and help you to see if he really likes you.  If he is cool about you meeting his friends then it shows he does like you on some level.

Don’t Booty Call Him

Resist the urge to call him and make it all about sex.  You can call, but call sometimes to just talk.  If you are doing the booty call then he won’t likely ever take you serious as something other than his buddy.

Tell Him How You Feel

Sometimes you just have to tell him straight out that you want to be more than buddies.  He may say no, but he also could say yes.  You will never know if you just don’t put it out there and tell him how you feel.

Let Your Guy Friend Know Your Feelings

Of course, getting him to ask me out was not simple.  Getting any guy to ask you out is not simple and especially when he is just a friend and has been that for quite a while.  Eventually, though, I got him to ask me out.  I know.  You want to know how I did it.  Let me give you some tips to help you to get your guy friend to ask you out.

Start by letting him know that your feelings have changed.  If you are not direct, like most of us, then you have to do this with actions and body language.  Remember that guys are not good with subtle, though.  Try to be clear that you are really interested in him in a while new way.

Watch Out For His Actions

While doing your little flirty act you should watch closely to how he responds.  You want to try to figure out if he feels the same way about you.  Is he showing signs of liking your new attitude or is he backing off?  Try to figure out where he stands.

If you have gotten your feelings across and he has shown you he is interested, then all you need to do is set the stage.  Get time alone so he can ask you out.  Start dropping hints about dates and see if he bites.  Chances are that he will ask you out.

If he doesn’t take the hints, though, you may have to do the work yourself.  If all else fails then just ask him out.  The worse that could happen is he says no.