The answer to all these questions is authenticity.  Men just want you to stop playing games and keep it real.  They don’t want to be caught up in some big emotional mess that was created out of your need for drama.  They just want to know the real you.

Simple Minds

Men have fairly simple minds.  They are not biologically as emotional as we are.  They like to look at facts and they like to strip things down to their basic parts.  This helps them understand things.  In order for a man to understand you, he has to know the real you.

He can never know the real you if you are playing games and putting up a false front.  He won’t even want to take the time to figure you out.  You have to give him the real you right away.

Being Authentic

You should really not need guidance on being real.  However, it is common with women to try to hide their real self.  Whether it is self-consciousness or just shyness, women like to put on a front.  In order to attract a man, though, you have to be confident.  You need to be the real you.

Try letting your guard down.  Don’t make everything about emotions.  Be who you are.  When you are real and authentic, you will find a man that accepts you for who you are.  You will find a true love.

Cornered And Pressured

Trying to talk to your man about your relationship makes him feel cornered and pressured.  When you try to get him to label your relationship, he feels out of control and many times, he feels like running away.

A better option is for you to look at the relationship yourself and do your own assessment.  By looking at some common points in your relationship, you can easily see where your relationship stands.  If then you feel the need to talk, you can at least go to him with something specific that is bothering you instead of having a big talk about what label best fits your relationship.

Here are some things for you to consider that will help you get a better grasp on where you stand with your relationship:

• Do you see each other often or is it usually on the weekends or just whenever it is convenient?  If you seem to have regular contact, either in person or by phone and you are actually talking on a regular basis, chances are you are in a real relationship.  He doesn’t see you as something casual.

• Can you get in contact with him whenever you need to?  If he makes himself available to you then he is really into you.  He will make sure that you can contact him if you need him because he cares.

• After a sleepover, do you hang out together for breakfast or longer into the day?  When he quickly leaves in the morning, he is saying he doesn’t want to be too close.  He may think of your relationship as more casual.

• Do you have items at each other homes?  Leaving personal items is sort of like marking your territory.  If he does it at your house or lets you do it at his then he is comfortable with you and he is making a subtle statement that you are his.

Clarify Love

Love is personal.  You have to look inside yourself and find out what love means to you.  Try writing down everything you think about love.  Find a way to identify what it means to you.  Write your own definition.

Know What Love is Not

When defining love, you also need to define what is not love.  You need to figure out the difference between love and lust.  Figure out where friendship type love turns into romantic love.  Further define love based on these things.

Find Out More About Love

You should read others opinions on love.  Find various definitions.  See how other people define love.  Look for things that challenge your definition.  Try to expand your mind about love.  Bring together everything you have learned about love and use this information to help you come up with your final and complete definition of love.

Define your Relationship

Now that you have defined love for yourself in your terms, you can look at your relationship.  Look at him and ask yourself again if you are really in love with him.  Do your feelings fit into the scope of your definition?  If so, then I think you can safely say that you are really in love.

You don’t want to choose the wrong guy.  You want to be sure he is the man of your dreams.  How can you do that?  Start by asking some tough questions.

Ask Some Tough Questions

Is he truly happy to be with you?  Does he value you?  If he is not completely madly nuts about you then you have reason to question if he is your dream man.  Your dream man should be head over heels about you and show you how crazy he is about you so there are no questions.

Do you nitpick his faults?  Do you find his faults cute?  Either scenario spells trouble.  Seriously, you should be able to live with his faults.  You shouldn’t pretend they are cute and you should be drove crazy by them.  With the right man, faults are just part of the deal and you accept them.

Do you know what he loves about you?  You should be able to say exactly what he loves about you and what you love about him.  If you can’t define your love for each other then it is right to question if it even exists.

Asking yourself these questions can really bring things into perspective.  If you are at a point where you are asking if he is “the one” then you are ready to ask these tough questions.  You are ready to face the truth.  Who knows?  Maybe you will find out he really is your prince.