The following list outlines things that you never tolerate from a jealous boyfriend.  If you experience any of these things then you need to rethink your relationship and possibly end things before they get too out of control.

• He is constantly putting you down.  If he is always hurling insults at you and it seems that nothing you do is acceptable, he is displaying classic jealousy symptoms.  He is trying to make you feel bad about yourself so you think he is the only man who will ever love you.

• You cannot do anything without reporting to him first.  If you no longer have control over what you do then this is a problem.  He is stripping you of your identity and he is controlling you.

• He doesn’t trust you at all.  No relationship can succeed unless there is trust.  If trust is nonexistent then the relationship becomes more about control and loses all sense of love.

• He takes away anything that he cannot control.  This might mean that he starts to drive you everywhere and doesn’t allow you to drive anymore.  He may take away your cell, probably citing money as the reason or suggesting you share a phone.

• He makes you feel bad if you spend time with anyone other than him.  A jealous man may start to use your emotions against you.  He will convince you that if you are not with him every day, all day that you don’t love him as you say you do.  In an attempt to make him see you do love him, you will likely stop hanging out with friends and family and find yourself with him 24/7.

• He makes you fear losing him.  Over time, he will drill it into your head that only he can love you like you need to be loved and if you ever lose him, you cannot find another man to be with.

• He gets physical.  This is a very serious issue that you simply cannot look past.  No man should ever hit you, push you, or otherwise use his physical strength to intimidate you.  Being afraid of someone is not love.  If you ever find yourself in a situation of abuse, you have to make sure that get away immediately.  This is never okay.

Jealousy can go way too far.  When a jealous boyfriend goes from being loving and caring to dominate and controlling, something is wrong.  Love should never be about controlling someone else.  It should be give and take. Real love isn’t about spending every moment together.  It is about cherishing when you are together and being able to trust each other enough to know when you are apart that you will find each other again.

Why Are You So Jealous?

To get to the heart of things you have to figure out why you are jealous.  Do you feel he likes them more than you?  Are you feeling inadequate when compared to them?  Your insecurity could be the reason for your jealousy.  You have to be more confident.  If your man really does love you then nobody will turn his head.

Of course, you could be jealous because you sense attraction between them.  You could see something there that you feel they both also see.  This could be throwing up red flags all over the place.

It doesn’t really matter what is at the heart of things.  You just need to talk to him about it.  Keep in mind, though, if you have guy friends then your guy may feel the same.  Be ready to compromise.

Attacking Will Only Make Him Defensive

Don’t start getting all defensive and please don’t start calling his friends names.  Unless you truly dislike a friend of his, don’t start hating her now.  That will cause him to be defensive of her and that will just make you even more jealous.  He is really just sticking up for someone who is not there to stick up for themselves.  He isn’t taking sides.  Keep that in mind.

It can really help matters if you try to be friends with his friends. Get to know them.  Then you all can hang out and you will see there is nothing to be jealous of.  This can really help.

Overall, not being jealous of his friends that happen to be girls is hard.  It is a natural response, but you have to be confident in yourself and your relationship.  If you can’t get over it then maybe your relationship isn’t that strong and you have deeper issues to work on.