Don’t overanalyze what he says.

Sometimes you just have to listen to what he is saying.  He may be telling you outright that he doesn’t want to get married, but you are just not getting it.  If he has says something like marriage is not something he has given much thought to or that he doesn’t believe you have to be married to have a great, long lasting relationship then you should wake up.

What he’s really telling you is that he not interested in the idea of marriage at all.  The chances of you getting married are slim to none, no matter what else he may have said or done.

Look at his past.

You have to consider his past relationships.  If he has never really settled down with a woman and has dated around a lot then maybe he is not really keen on the idea of commitment.  If he has been engaged before but broke it off or if he has even been married before, these are signs that may tell you he is not really interested in being married.

Consider his priorities in life.

Everyone has things that they prioritize in their life.  Some people put their career first.  Some people put their friends first and other put their family first.  If a man is ready to get married then they will put their priorities in their family and in you.  If he doesn’t seem to be doing that then he may not be the marrying type.

Is he mature?

Marriage is an adult thing.  If your man is still acting as if he’s in high school, he simply is not at a maturity level where he can even be ready to marry.  A man that is ready to settle down is mature.  He has his priorities straight and he is really focused on you and your relationship.  He should not be selfish or childish if you want to marry him.

Consider where he is at in life.

A man that is ready to marry will be ready to settle down.  This means financially he will be able to commit to you and your relationship.  He will be ready to focus on your marriage and do what needs to be done to commit and make it a strong union.

Tips:

• It is a myth that all men fear commitment.  There really are guys out there who crave a relationship and even dream about getting married.

• Maturity should be gauged in general.  Every person has their immature moments.  You should consider your man’s general behavior when you try to gauge his maturity.

• Sometimes men tell you what you want to hear.  Even though he has said that he wants to marry you, if all the signs above point to him not being ready then you really should take a deeper look at things.

Frankly, I think if a guy wants casual sex with you well, that’s exactly what he wants: casual sex. Very often, wanting more will put an abrupt end to something that from his perspective was going so well. You have probably been around long enough to know that and that does not put you at ease.

You Don’t Want To Have “The Talk”

So how can you find out without asking the dreaded question; where are we going with this? Maybe women are usually the one asking this question, but let’s face it honey, no one likes to “have the talk”. And if you think about it, you have ran without looking back from some dude who asked you that question.

What sign then can you use to find out if he’s interested beyond the bedroom? Very simple; how much time does he want to spend with you outside of the bedroom? If lately he has been trying to “just hang out”, then your prospects are looking good. Normally you want to date before going to bed, but the next best thing is dating after getting out of it.

He Wants To See More Of With Cloths On

If he wants more, he’ll start calling you out of the blue and suggest activities that does not involve you laying on your back. You’ll probably notice that he cares because of some of the things he’ll do like remembering something important for you. When you see those signs, you know your guy is wanting you more in his life.

However, if you don’t notice those signs, don’t assume it’s because he needs you to help him figure it out. Men are programmed to go after what they want, and they don’t debate issues like women do. If he wanted to see you more often, you would know by now. If he doesn’t, then nothing has changed since you first met, except for time. He didn’t want to commit then, he doesn’t want it now.

So if you want to commit it might be time to move on and take steps to find the man of your dream who is ready to commit to you.

Is Your Relationship Ready For a Proposal?

Before you make your decision, there are some fill in the blanks you need to consider. Are you both in an exclusive relationship? Sure, you might be seeing only him but is the same true on his end of the relationship. If you don’t know the answer, honey, you’re not ready for the big step. Find that answer before you waste another moment or even consider marriage. Make sure you’ve been seeing each other long enough to see him when his guard’s down and the real personality comes out in public.

Ask yourself another question about the relationship and don’t cheat on the answer or you’ll never know what to do. Do you love to be with him and do his actions say the same back to you? If you argue all the time, if he blows you off for a night with his buddies or if you find yourself happier alone, run, don’t walk to the nearest exit if you want marriage. If you simply enjoy his company when there’s nothing else to do, why change a good thing?

Why Do You Want Him To Propose?

You should also look deeply into your own motives. Do you really want marriage and the years of commitment to making it work? Some women fall in love with being in love. Others simply love the idea of a party thrown in their honor, being the center of attention, wearing a beautiful white gown and getting an abundance of presents. They don’t look at the real commitment that marriage takes in order to work. Will you still love the man when the hoopla is over? Do you really want him or simply the opportunity to be a bride?

If you haven’t breached the topic, you need to figure out why you haven’t. Surely, it’s not the first time you thought of it. Are you afraid that he wants no part of marrying you? That’s the best reason to open up the topic. If you’re spending your precious time with a guy that is using you to kill time, you don’t need to waste one more second with the jerk.

Have You Discussed Marriage Before?

The only way you’ll find out is to open the top for discussion. You don’t have to propose, just find out where you stand. Even a response you don’t want to hear is better than never knowing. It gives you the information you need to either move onto greener pastures or stay snuggled in his arms.

If you’ve talked about the subject, agreed that it’s a good idea and still he hasn’t made the move to pop the question, why wait? Either he’ll run away or the two of you will merrily plan for your future. Silence may be golden sometimes, but in a relationship, it doesn’t help anyone. If marriage is what you really want, then go ahead and propose to your man. If he says no, hey, there are other guys out there that find you stunning so don’t ever settle for less than what you really want. Go after that brass ring and grab it. You’ll save yourself a lot of sleepless nights, future tears and wasted time if you face the topic directly.