Sometimes just hanging around and dealing with a bad relationship is easier than dealing with the insanity that comes after a bad break up.  You don’t have to suffer.  You really do need to break up.  It is no good to stick it out with someone that you just don’t have feelings for anymore.

There is a way to break up with her without creating a mess.  You just need to know what to do and what not to do.

What To Do

Be open about how you feel.  Avoid using stereotypical phrases.  Make sure that you just say what you feel.  Tell her why you want to break up by being straight and honest about it.

Do it in private.  Don’t make a break up public.  You should be alone, just the two of you.  Make sure that you are sensitive to her feelings.  You don’t want other people around.  They may try to get involved and that will just make things more difficult.

What Not To Do

Do not put it off.  Like I said before, that is so tempting.  Just do it.  If you are not feeling the relationship then just break it off.  It will save you both a lot of hurt in the long run if you just get it over with.

Do not start a new relationship until the old one is over.  This means even flirting with other girls.  This sends the wrong message.  End this relationship before you get into another.

Do not make it a fight. Do not place blame.  Do not be negative.  Try to be as nice as possible.  Don’t start an argument.  The nicer you are about breaking it off, the better chance you have of walking away with your sanity intact.