You may feel like you have been through the wringer after your divorce.  You may be gun shy and fear ever dating again.  This is common, but it isn’t long lasting.  Soon you will begin to find women interesting again and the time will come to jump back in the dating pool.

Before getting your feet wet, though, you may want to take a look at the following five tips that can help make dating after divorce a little easier.

Tip #1: Don’t Try to Hold Back your Emotions

Before you can open yourself up to date someone new, you have to release the old.  You need to come to grips with how you feel about your ex and how you feel about the divorce.  Until you can let it all go and feel all the emotions you have pent up inside, you cannot move on.

Tip #2: Don’t Use Dating as a Way to Get Back at your Ex

You cannot use dating as a way to make your ex jealous or try to lure her back.  If you even think this way go back and read tip #1.  Let it go.  Don’t go places where she will be and don’t flaunt your dating in her face.  You got divorced for a reason, so remember that.

Tip #3: Go Slow

The last thing you need is a super serious relationship right away.  Don’t think of dating as finding a new wife.  Think of it as trying to connect with new people.  You need time to savor being alone.  Just take it slow.  Date around and don’t be too quick to commit.

Tip #4: Don’t Play Victim

No woman wants a sob story.  You may draw in one or two women who like to nurture, but you won’t be finding women who like you for you if you play the victim.  Don’t go on about your divorce and how much it sucked.  In fact, don’t’ talk about it at all and if you are asked just be brief.

Tip #5: Have Fun

Don’t let yourself forget that dating is supposed to be fun.  You are meeting new people, going out and forgetting the troubles of the past.  Have fun with it and don’t be too serious.  If you are having fun then the woman you are with will have fun and that makes for an amazing dating experience.