Dating while going through a divorce is a very complex situation.  There are many things to think about.  You not only have the emotional aspect, but there is also the legal aspect to think about.  Even if you and your ex are positive things are over and the divorce is actually going smoothly, you still have to be aware of the risks.  The following steps will help you date while going through a divorce while also avoiding problems.

Make sure this is something you are ready to do.

You may just want to date so you can stick it to you ex.  This is not reason to start dating.  You have to be sure that emotionally, you are ready.  Really be honest with yourself about this because you will be impacting yourself, whoever you choose to date and your ex.  If you have kids they will be impacted, too.  This is an important step that cannot be overlooked.

Check into the legal aspects.

You are in the middle of a divorce, nothing is final.  Talk with your attorney and make sure that if you do date that there are not going to be legal complications.  If your divorce is going smoothly and, especially, if your ex is dating then you should be fine, but check things out wit your attorney to be sure.

Be honest with potential dates.

Do not represent yourself as a divorced person.  You are not legally divorced.  You have to be honest and upfront about the fact that you are currently divorcing.  Some people do not want to date someone who is not free and clear of a marriage.  They have the right to know that you are legally still married, so state this right from the start.

Take it slow.

Do not rush into anything.  Do not head out looking for a new spouse.  Take things slow.  Take your time.  Date around.  Right now is not the time to get into a serious relationship.  Just see who is out there and see what it is that you do want once it is time to start dating seriously.

Tips:

• Understand the impact of dating while going through a divorce.  You need to realize that it is not just your choice.  There are other people involved and there are legal aspects to consider.

• Try group dating.  When you are going out with a group it takes the pressure off and it is less likely to cause issues with your soon-to-be-ex.

• Consider online dates.  You can actually talk to others and have a virtual date without having any physical pressure in place.  This is not only good for everyone involved, but it will also stop you from using dating as an excuse to just find someone to have sex with.

• Know that you do not have to date.  If you feel pressured to date just because your ex is dating then you really need to step back.  You should only be dating if it is something that you really want to do.