The friend dilemma, it is so common.  Why?  Well, the answer is pretty simple.  We all want a relationship that is built on friendship and we all want to get to know someone a little before jumping into a relationship.  The friend dilemma comes in because we fail to make that jump from friend to more than friends.

The Best Relationships Start As Friendships

You could just jump into dating every girl you meet, but I wouldn’t advise it.  You never know what you may get.  Plus, it is very true that all the best relationships are friendships first.  You need to stick with what you are doing.

To make it work as a relationship and not just a friendship, though, you have to show her from the start that you are interested in her as more than friends.  This doesn’t mean sleeping with her – I know some of you think that it does, so I had to say it.

She’s Not One Of The Guys

Just don’t treat her like one of the guys.  Don’t be too casual around her.  Treat her like a potential date.  Be kind and courteous to her.  You can build up your friendship, but if she ever gets the feeling that she is just a friend then she will push you into that friend category forever.  It is hard for a girl to see a guy as anything more once she classifies him as just a friend.

You need to just plant the seeds that possibly you may want something more.  When you get the response that shows she likes you in that way too, then it is time to make your move.  Just ask her out.  Don’t beat around the bush about it and never try to be cute or sly about it.  Be direct and just ask her.

Be ready for rejection and be ready to hear that she feels you are just a friend.  This happens sometimes, but what you should think about is she just might say yes.  You will never know if you do not try.  I hate being cliché, but in this case it is the truth.