The dreaded “Friend Zone”.  Have you ended up there before?  It sucks, doesn’t it?  Yeah.  So, how do you avoid ending up there again?  How can you bypass that friend crap and get into boyfriend territory?  The trick is to understand first how you got in the “Friend Zone” and second, what to do to stay out.

The Friend Zone Trap

Falling into the “Friend Zone” happens slowly.  You start out by getting to know each other.  There may be attraction.  You start to want to hang out more and you start to feel close to her.  This is where things go wrong.

At this point you can go to the “Friend Zone” or you can get into boyfriend territory.  When you go the friend route it happens because you start acting like a girlfriend.  You start listening to her talk about other guys and you start becoming her advisor on all of life’s ups and downs.  She starts to think of you as one of her girlfriends.

Avoiding the Zone

To avoid falling in the “Friend Zone” you have to not be the go to guy.  Don’t talk with her about other guys.  Don’t encourage her to talk to you about her worries and fears about relationships.  Instead play it cool.  Be the guy that she likes to hang out with, but that draws the line at talking relationships unless it is your relationship with her.

By setting up that one boundary you can stay out of the “Friend Zone”.  You can avoid the heartache that comes with knowing this girl you care about so much will never see you as more than a friend.  It is the chance to actually be considered a boyfriend and finally let you get the girl you want.