It is very common for a woman to want to place a label on a relationship.  We want to know at all times where our relationship stands.  Men don’t like this. They prefer to take their time and let things just develop naturally.  In fact, when asked in a poll, men stated that the one thing they hate to talk about the most is the status of their relationship.

Cornered And Pressured

Trying to talk to your man about your relationship makes him feel cornered and pressured.  When you try to get him to label your relationship, he feels out of control and many times, he feels like running away.

A better option is for you to look at the relationship yourself and do your own assessment.  By looking at some common points in your relationship, you can easily see where your relationship stands.  If then you feel the need to talk, you can at least go to him with something specific that is bothering you instead of having a big talk about what label best fits your relationship.

Here are some things for you to consider that will help you get a better grasp on where you stand with your relationship:

• Do you see each other often or is it usually on the weekends or just whenever it is convenient?  If you seem to have regular contact, either in person or by phone and you are actually talking on a regular basis, chances are you are in a real relationship.  He doesn’t see you as something casual.

• Can you get in contact with him whenever you need to?  If he makes himself available to you then he is really into you.  He will make sure that you can contact him if you need him because he cares.

• After a sleepover, do you hang out together for breakfast or longer into the day?  When he quickly leaves in the morning, he is saying he doesn’t want to be too close.  He may think of your relationship as more casual.

• Do you have items at each other homes?  Leaving personal items is sort of like marking your territory.  If he does it at your house or lets you do it at his then he is comfortable with you and he is making a subtle statement that you are his.