Marriage is a big step in a relationship.  Deciding to get married is not something that should be taken lightly.  Many women feel the pressure to get married and settled down, while most men get pressured to stay single and not settle down.  This leads to conflict between men and women.  You may be wanting to get married and to calm you down he tells you that while he’s not ready now, that he will marry you in the future.  He may even have proposed already and you are starting to grow wary since your engagement seems to be never ending.  You need to find out if your man is really going to marry you or if it is time to give up on the idea, at least with him.

Don’t overanalyze what he says.

Sometimes you just have to listen to what he is saying.  He may be telling you outright that he doesn’t want to get married, but you are just not getting it.  If he has says something like marriage is not something he has given much thought to or that he doesn’t believe you have to be married to have a great, long lasting relationship then you should wake up.

What he’s really telling you is that he not interested in the idea of marriage at all.  The chances of you getting married are slim to none, no matter what else he may have said or done.

Look at his past.

You have to consider his past relationships.  If he has never really settled down with a woman and has dated around a lot then maybe he is not really keen on the idea of commitment.  If he has been engaged before but broke it off or if he has even been married before, these are signs that may tell you he is not really interested in being married.

Consider his priorities in life.

Everyone has things that they prioritize in their life.  Some people put their career first.  Some people put their friends first and other put their family first.  If a man is ready to get married then they will put their priorities in their family and in you.  If he doesn’t seem to be doing that then he may not be the marrying type.

Is he mature?

Marriage is an adult thing.  If your man is still acting as if he’s in high school, he simply is not at a maturity level where he can even be ready to marry.  A man that is ready to settle down is mature.  He has his priorities straight and he is really focused on you and your relationship.  He should not be selfish or childish if you want to marry him.

Consider where he is at in life.

A man that is ready to marry will be ready to settle down.  This means financially he will be able to commit to you and your relationship.  He will be ready to focus on your marriage and do what needs to be done to commit and make it a strong union.

Tips:

• It is a myth that all men fear commitment.  There really are guys out there who crave a relationship and even dream about getting married.

• Maturity should be gauged in general.  Every person has their immature moments.  You should consider your man’s general behavior when you try to gauge his maturity.

• Sometimes men tell you what you want to hear.  Even though he has said that he wants to marry you, if all the signs above point to him not being ready then you really should take a deeper look at things.