You’ve been dating the same man for over two years and the relationship never touched on the next step, marriage. You know the guy’s the man of your dreams but why is he moving so slowly? Your biological clock ticks as you wake up every morning wondering whether he’ll pop the question that night. Is going to propose? Should I propose? When is the right time to propose to a man? These are some of the questions that torment you all day. You have two choices in this case. Continue to wait or breech the subject yourself.

Is Your Relationship Ready For a Proposal?

Before you make your decision, there are some fill in the blanks you need to consider. Are you both in an exclusive relationship? Sure, you might be seeing only him but is the same true on his end of the relationship. If you don’t know the answer, honey, you’re not ready for the big step. Find that answer before you waste another moment or even consider marriage. Make sure you’ve been seeing each other long enough to see him when his guard’s down and the real personality comes out in public.

Ask yourself another question about the relationship and don’t cheat on the answer or you’ll never know what to do. Do you love to be with him and do his actions say the same back to you? If you argue all the time, if he blows you off for a night with his buddies or if you find yourself happier alone, run, don’t walk to the nearest exit if you want marriage. If you simply enjoy his company when there’s nothing else to do, why change a good thing?

Why Do You Want Him To Propose?

You should also look deeply into your own motives. Do you really want marriage and the years of commitment to making it work? Some women fall in love with being in love. Others simply love the idea of a party thrown in their honor, being the center of attention, wearing a beautiful white gown and getting an abundance of presents. They don’t look at the real commitment that marriage takes in order to work. Will you still love the man when the hoopla is over? Do you really want him or simply the opportunity to be a bride?

If you haven’t breached the topic, you need to figure out why you haven’t. Surely, it’s not the first time you thought of it. Are you afraid that he wants no part of marrying you? That’s the best reason to open up the topic. If you’re spending your precious time with a guy that is using you to kill time, you don’t need to waste one more second with the jerk.

Have You Discussed Marriage Before?

The only way you’ll find out is to open the top for discussion. You don’t have to propose, just find out where you stand. Even a response you don’t want to hear is better than never knowing. It gives you the information you need to either move onto greener pastures or stay snuggled in his arms.

If you’ve talked about the subject, agreed that it’s a good idea and still he hasn’t made the move to pop the question, why wait? Either he’ll run away or the two of you will merrily plan for your future. Silence may be golden sometimes, but in a relationship, it doesn’t help anyone. If marriage is what you really want, then go ahead and propose to your man. If he says no, hey, there are other guys out there that find you stunning so don’t ever settle for less than what you really want. Go after that brass ring and grab it. You’ll save yourself a lot of sleepless nights, future tears and wasted time if you face the topic directly.